No, you're not tainted or strange. I am a bleeding heart to a point, but there is a line. Sometimes people do bring things on themselves.
If your coworker was so worried about the kids who would be left out, why couldn't she have offered to pay for those kids? Would 50 cents kill her budget?
>>I think we all just have to take responsibility for our choices, and complaining about the consequences just gets old. <<
I agree. I do think it can be healthy to vent about what frustrates us - here and elsewhere but, if all we do is vent and never act on it or try to make changes in our lives, that's when it gets annoying. "Suit up and show up" is what my best friend says. I love that line -- it means at least do your part and not play the victim all the time.
The nice thing about this board is there is always someone to say, "Hey, wake up. Did you think about it this way?" I know I've had my feel-sorry-for-me moments here, and then there's always someone who helps snap me out of that. I love that. It's much better to feel as we have choice, are in control and don't have to be victims or damsels in distress.
I agree with you a lot on this. We all do need to take responsibility for our situations and consequences, at least those things that we can control. It does get old hearing about r'ship stories in which the women are so miserable but they dont' find the courage from within to leave. It's a tough process but it's doable and the alternative is so much better in the long-haul. Some people just act out of fears and dont' do what's best for them. No body can do it for you, you have to do it for yourself.
Personally I don't come on these message boards expecting for someone to solve my problem I come on these things so that I can get someone out of my circle of friends to give me their honest opinion on my situation. You did that with me you called me selfish remember. Now I don't know you but I kinda get a vibe the you obviously have gone through alot in your lifetime but you can't say that everyone is capable of making the right choices or decisions. No it's not that easy I feel that people do learn from their mistakes and if it takes one or two tries before they do than hey so be it. Now when there are people doing drugs, drinking or whatever and they do it to a point where they get lost what do you say "Oh, he did that on his own, that's what he gets" NO you don't you are there for that person you talk to them they might not want to listen or they might not do it right aways but if your their family or friend than you keep on no matter what becaue that is what your there for and if your not there for them than who will. Maybe we should take other peoples problems into our own hands but we def. shouldn't just sit back and do nothing either. And about the lady who was said that they couldn't do the .50 paw thing you might not be sympathetic towards people but let me tell you something how would you have liked to be that little boy or girl who didn't have the .50 yeah it might not traumatize them for life but it sure will make them feel bad at the moment than you wonder why kids steal from there parents, or they feel like their parents don't love them because if the parents can't give it to them and they want it they are going to get it and that pissess me off when the school sell shirts, candy or whatever the case maybe i am a single mom and i love my kids to death but there are times when I just don't have it so maybe you should start taking people actions into consideration i don't think people on these boards are expecting for others to solve their problem they just want someone to talk to. and if you have such a problem than why are you here just to give your negative opinion really think about it.
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You'd think that wouldn't you?
No, you're not tainted or strange. I am a bleeding heart to a point, but there is a line. Sometimes people do bring things on themselves.
If your coworker was so worried about the kids who would be left out, why couldn't she have offered to pay for those kids? Would 50 cents kill her budget?
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Oh, she'd have done that and then complained incessantly about it!
That was really just the only example I could think of at the time.
>>I think we all just have to take responsibility for our choices, and complaining about the consequences just gets old. <<
I agree. I do think it can be healthy to vent about what frustrates us - here and elsewhere but, if all we do is vent and never act on it or try to make changes in our lives, that's when it gets annoying. "Suit up and show up" is what my best friend says. I love that line -- it means at least do your part and not play the victim all the time.
The nice thing about this board is there is always someone to say, "Hey, wake up. Did you think about it this way?" I know I've had my feel-sorry-for-me moments here, and then there's always someone who helps snap me out of that. I love that. It's much better to feel as we have choice, are in control and don't have to be victims or damsels in distress.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Exactly- occasional venting or really even whining, followed by a strong recovery is absolutely natural.
You unearthed by other soapbox!
Nope, no one is capable of making the right decisions all of the time.
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