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Body Language
| Wed, 05-17-2006 - 1:31am |
I thought this might be interesting...it's obviously a fact that women pick up body language so much better than men. So what have body language do you look for when you talk to the opposite sex?
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Tom

Edited 5/17/2006 12:30 pm ET by precious2be
I think the previous posters have covered many of the obvious signs. Here, I would like to raise a related question: Can we rely on the more unconscious signals, like reaching toward the stranger's direction, playing with your hair?
Yesterday, I was watching a guy hitting on a girl. Her body was as stiff as a stone, with her arms crossed, but she was kicking her leg the whole time. Furthermore, She was looking at him and smiling, and speaking in the most mesmerizing voice. I think that smiling and looking are conscious efforts, but should we rely on the less conscious signals, like, in this case, the leg-kick and her voice? I will appreciate any response.
If we're already speaking, I do look to see if he's making eye contact with me and if his body is turned towards me. Usually I can pick up pretty quickly when someone doesn't want to be talking to me and I'll make a bit more polite conversation and find a way out. If he's looking elsewhere, looking uncomfortable or has his whole body slowly turning away from me- those are all signs that he wants to be anywhere but here. But even if he is turned towards me and is looking at me and smiling, I do have a hard time gaging if he really is interested or if he's just being sociable.
When not in a conversation, if I come into the room and he smiles at me while staring, I may get the hint. Smiles and warm eye contact go a long way. But speaking is much better and clearer.
YES, you should only rely on subconscious signals. Many women are polite and have been taught to never offend in social situations ("to be a lady").
In addition, language/culture are only a few thousand years old, while body language (which all animals have) is at least 60 million years old and is primal, in the evolutionary sense.