Body language

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Body language
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Mon, 07-07-2014 - 1:48pm
Do you pay much attention to body language when you're talking to someone you might be interested in? I'm not entirely convinced you can tell if a guy is interested based on some of the things I've read- putting his hands in his pockets, sitting with his legs wide open, extended eye contact. I want to believe them. I really do. The guy I'm interested in does all kinds of things to show me he's interested. I am pretty sure he knows I'm interested yet...nothing. Maybe I'm just impatient. Or maybe I need to be more obvious. Maybe I should read Superflirt again. All I know for sure is being single is really, really old right now!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: shywon
Mon, 07-07-2014 - 2:38pm

The things I would notice are the more obvious things like standing close, touching you, making eye contact.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Mon, 07-07-2014 - 5:06pm
I prefer those, too! It's way more obvious. We've only had one opportunity to be close to each other and I'm not sure if it was just me standing close or if he wasn't moving (hopefully that makes sense). My married girlfriend is usually right there in the middle of us. I told her I was interested, so maybe she'll leave us alone some more. He's definitely got the eye contact. I think what's holding me back is that he seems to date quite a bit and lots of women seem interested (according to my friend). I don't know if he's just naturally friendly like that.
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Registered: 02-25-2013
Tue, 07-08-2014 - 10:20am

In my experience, if a man who is not shy shows interest but does not ask you out, it's because of one of two things: either he has a girlfriend or wife already, or, he's just not that in to you, but likes the ego boost of you flirting with him, so he pretends to be interested. Because of those two reasons, plus the fact that he sounds like a serial dater, then his past behavior will dictate future behavior. He will briefly date you then move on to other women. Men who regulary frequent bars may be addicted to the constant stream of new women out there, and never settle down.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Tue, 07-08-2014 - 4:55pm
He was married for ten years and has been divorced for two. We had a conversation a couple of weeks ago about how he wants to find just one woman and he's tired of dating around like he has been. If he doesn't ask me out, though, it doesn't matter how much he is or isn't flirting. I just hate trying to read signals so I know if I need to/can reciprocate without feeling like an idiot- even if he is just in it for the attention.
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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: shywon
Thu, 07-10-2014 - 6:17pm

iron skillet

dragowoman

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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: xxxs
Thu, 07-10-2014 - 6:19pm

 Males do not take hints

he is being what he thinks is a gentleman

use direct language and body movements

dragowoman

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Fri, 07-11-2014 - 1:50am
I'm about 95% certain after tonight that he's interested. We spent most of the night (2 hours+) talking while my friend left us alone. :) She said he likes me. We'll see.
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Registered: 02-21-2010
In reply to: shywon
Fri, 07-11-2014 - 9:08pm

hi,

I am the sort of person where I pay attention more to what a person says and how they say it. My parents are bus drivers at the same organization. my mom can tell that one or 2 of the women are allegedly flirting with my dad. my dad cannot tell because that's just his personality. he does not pay attention to women when they flirt with him. or he is not that good at perceiving it. neither am I. that's why I asked for adviced a while back. So if I was not good at telling by telling by virtue of what a woman says and how she says it (until recently at least), then I would be oblivious to body language.  

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Sun, 07-13-2014 - 2:17pm
We hung out again last night. I asked him to come out, and he showed. I gave him my number, so we shall see. There shouldn't be any doubt in his mind that I'm interested. I'm pretty sure he's interested. In a way, it's kind of refreshing that he's not jumping all over me at first. I'm so used to guys trying to get me in bed, I've forgotten what it's like to meet one who is actually trying to get to know me.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 07-13-2014 - 8:41pm

Good luck.  I hope he asks you out.  I think when men are interested they usually don't have much trouble making a move.  I was with my prettiest friend Sat. night at a dance and as we were leaving, a guy asked for her number--he hardly even talked to her so of course he was going for the looks.  He was giving me as a reference because I have seen him at dances for a couple of years and talked to him when in reality I wouldn't recommend him as a date--he's kind of nutty but just fine to dance with.  Then I was at a July 4th party with this same woman and a few of us went for a walk along the beach later and another guy had to "walk her to her car."  Of course we all figured that he was asking her out.  She didn't say yes to either of them.  

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