Books for those who hate dating?
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| Mon, 11-13-2006 - 9:10pm |
Does anybody know of any good books to help those who HATE 'first dates' actually go on first dates?
Obviously speaking about myself here! I'm one of the most confident people I know, unless it's a first date, blind or not. I find myself so incredibly nervous and anxious that I consider backing out to stay home with a glass of wine and a good book. Several people I know have offered to hook me up with people but I always make excuses because of my nerves and quite frankly I'm sick of it. If I want to find someone worthwhile I have to date, right? LOL...right now I'm waiting for someone to fall into my lap, with a little bow on his head and a tag that says "Mr. Right". Merry Christmas.
I know I'm not that only person who encounters this so I figure there must be a book or something that will help me work through this. I'd do the whole counseling thing which has been soo positive for me in the past but the current health insurance makes it too expensive.

I'm sure there are books out there, but I don't know what they are.
Oh, honey, I've read them all.
One I really liked is "Guerilla Dating." I know that may sound aggressive, but it's not. The author (a woman) is like your big sister, kindly clueing you into everything, like how to go to a party, mingle and make conversation.
From a man's perspective, you may want to check out "Mars and Venus on a Date." I really didn't care for his "Men are from Mars..." book, but this one was really good. It helped me understand what men are thinking, and the whole process of dating.
If you plan on taking the internet route, please read "The Rules for Online Dating." Don't be turned off because this is the rules. Just learn from their experience, forget the rules if you want to.
And then, just because it's so wonderful, Greg Berhant's book "He's Just Not That Into You."
Best of luck!
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I actually was disappointed with "Always Talk to Strangers." I didn't feel like it had much to it. But I'd like to find another book on the same topic (approaching people) so I don't have to keep doing the OLD thing! I don't usually have a problem with first dates (although sometimes I do), but approaching people in the "real world" is hard for me.
My advice would be to go into the date with very low expectations of the person. Don't be too excited about it and I think you'll be more relaxed.