bored

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Registered: 11-04-2006
bored
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Sat, 02-17-2007 - 8:08pm
I was with a guy on and off for almost 4 years. We got into a fight and he hasnt called me back or even called me in general. Depressing enough was i went to his house and gave him his valentines gift i had bought him before hand and his stuff back. He wasnt there so i gave it to his mom. She claimed she hasnt seen him in 2 days. I dont think i believe her. He plans on moving over an hour away, which makes it easier to move on. However, I'd like my stuff back and dont have a clue to going about it, because i can not contact him. I want it to be over..i dont want this to drag on. The other thing that sucks about this problem is, i am the ONLY single girl out of all of my friends now. So i get ditched for husbands and boyfriends and sit alone with my dog. I dont want to be a single dog woman for the rest of my life, because of not going out to meet people. I dont meet people at my job, a.) because im a manager there and cant date anyone lower than me and b.) the people i work with that are managers too are old and have children, so they wouldnt be people i'd hang out with outside of work either. Its depressing. Id like some advice to maybe help the situation.
Avatar for cl_shywon
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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: jillian_j
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 10:11am

I think you just need to give it some time.

Avatar for cfk_3
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Registered: 05-14-1999
In reply to: jillian_j
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 1:06pm

Is there any way you can contact him or at least leave a message? Tell him or get word to him that you would like some closure and also your things back. I personally would let it go and get on with my life but I realize that not everyone is wired the same way.

As far as your status, this is obviously a fresh wound. Only time will cushion the pain, unfortunately. It's a process that most have experienced more than once. It bites, but there's no magic pill, I'm afraid.

Where your boredom is concerned, you have to create your own entertainment. Obviously, you can't expect to sit at home and meet people. Give yourself some time to lick your wounds and then get back out there. Are there dog parks in your area? I have a dog as well and have met some great folks at various parks around the city. Several years back I even posted an ad on AOL for an activity partner and met a really nice gal to play tennis with on the weekends. Other great places to meet people are book stores and coffee shops. Do you have any hobbies? If not, maybe you could take one up. Join a book club, a charity, adopt a shut-in . . . I think there's a website called Meet-Up.com, maybe you could even check that out.