On a boring Friday night...

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Registered: 07-16-2001
On a boring Friday night...
Fri, 09-14-2012 - 10:35pm

I should be exhausted from working the football game right now, but thanks to a jerkwad administrator, I'm not.  So I'm home, and bored.  What do I do when I'm bored on a Friday night and feeling lonely?  Why, look up ex boyfriends online, of course.  Isn't that what everyone does? (And just doesn't want to admit it.)

One ex I looked up when I first moved here 12 years ago, but couldn't find him.  I didn't know a soul within an hour and a half, and he was from here.  I couldn't find him at all.  Who can't be found on the internet these days??  It's not like his name is John Smith or anything.  No Facebook or anything for him.  So tonight, I got creative.  (I refuse to call it stalking, because I'm not doing this repeatedly!) I looked up his brother to see if he had a Facebook account.  He did, so I looked through his friends list.  I found one person with the same last name- a woman- so I clicked on her profile.  There wasn't much there, but her pictures were public so I clicked there.  And there he was.  I'm assuming the two kids in the other pictures were his.  I don't recall him having a sister, so it had to be his wife.  And I'm pretty sure her name is the name of the girl he started dating right after we broke up.  That always happens.  He had a whole lot less hair than he did when I knew him, that's for sure.  He was the one that got away, so it's kinda sad to confirm he's married (as I suspected), but at least now I know he's not dead.  When I couldn't ever find him, I thought maybe he was.  He's not nearly as attractive as he was at 20, but I suppose that's true of all of us.  The pictures were from 2009, so he probably has even less hair now!

Then I tried looking up an ex from 9 years ago.  The one who I suspect is bipolar.  He sent me a friend request when I first joined FB, so I know he has one.  He didn't come up in searches either!  I really just wanted to see if his life had self-destructed yet, as I suspect it might.  That guy really crushed me.  It did take me to a google search of him, which led to a page for his school district that said he was an "administrative intern."  He was working on his admin degree when we dated nine years ago, and he's just now an "intern"?  Hmmm...the boy can't stay focused to save his life!

My last search involved a guy I never met.  Back in college, email was fairly new and IM was just getting started.  One boring Friday night, I was in our dorm's computer lab where you could search for other people from the university who were online.  They were only identified by student number on the screen, and maybe one or two words that the person had added.  I picked a number with something clever written next to it and said hello.  That led to a very long chat, and four or so years of emailing back and forth.  We talked about meeting, but it never happened.  He gave me his phone number after he graduated (two years before me), but I never used it.  At that point, it just would have been weird.  I still have his last email- dated 2001- saved.  It was right after he'd gotten married. So I searched for him on FB.  I think I'd found him before, but was too chicken to send a request.  We never exchanged pictures or anything, so I wasn't sure if that was him or not.  This time, I didn't find him.  I didn't find his wife, either.  A google search (and this is a bit scary) revealed his address and phone number.  I would never use those, of course.  But again, he's still alive! 

Now it's 9:30, and I can't think of anyone else I'd like to look up, so I might go to bed.  I took a nap when I got home, though, so I don't think I'd fall asleep. Friday night TV is boring.  I certainly don't want to clean house or do laundry or grade papers. 

So that's what I did on this boring Friday night.  What about you?



iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 09-21-2012 - 7:37pm

I very rarely see any "lovey dovey" stuff on FB that I could get jealous of.  What's funny is that an old high school friend of mine posted that it's her & hub's 26th anniversary so I congratulated her on long years of a happy marriage.  Then she PMed me that it wasn't all a bed of roses--one year at a time.  So yeah, what people post on FB isn't going to be their real thoughts.  Who wants to air their dirty laundry?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2008
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 9:40am

That is so funny.  And probably the case more often than not!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 10:17am

OMG.. I see that stuff all the time and yes it makes me sick and jealous but yeah maybe some of it isnt true.

I wish I could stop but I am sooooooooooooo addicted to facebook... Its kind of one of my compartments I use for getting through life.. Like I have my real friends and family and then I have my online people..

There are days though where facebook makes my blood boil like when people write nasty posts about the US...

Oh; this is funny................. A guy who was friends with me who was friends with someone else wrote to me and said he thinks I might have pretty feet.. He then started sending me strange messages and he lists himself as a pastor.. yeah; a demon in disguise. I deleted him and defriended him................................

I might  need facebook rehab.. (lol)

take care