Boyfriend material vs. Husband material
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Boyfriend material vs. Husband material
| Mon, 12-04-2006 - 7:44am |
I always hear men talk about girlfriend material vs. wife material, or the woman you sleep with vs. the woman you date.

Smile,
Deirdre
I'm with hockey, I'm not much of a serial dater, when dating. I don't have the patience ; )
--I worded that wrong as I sit here reading this, hours later. I meant, I won't keep dating someone who I could not see myself with for an extended amount of time. I don't date to be dating.
I am not making any sense.
Okay, what I meant was: If I've ruled a guy out as someone I could love, I let him go. Of course, that's now, I may change gears further down the single highway.
I feel better now.
Edited 12/4/2006 3:49 pm ET by bbw_26
I think to a point that dividing line exists with women...though I have to say I try to steer clear of anyone who I know right away isn't "husband material."
At this stage in my life, a guy won't be my boyfriend unless I feel he is also husband material.
For me, qualities that make for husband material:
- financially responsible
- good to children and animals (the most recent guy I dated was a bit rough with my puppy, and that was a red flag for me)
- good relationship with his family and/or friends (I know some people don't have the best families, but I am looking for someone who generally gets along with people and is at peace with his family situation at least)
- makes a sincere effort to make time for me
- someone who isn't still living the college party lifestyle in his 30s, knows how to fix at least a basic meal and makes his bed
- someone secure who doesn't need to be worshipped by me -- or doesn't need to worship me and put me on a pedestel. I need someone who genuinely appreciates me as a human being and is not looking for some fantasy.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
You make sense, don't worry.
>>I honestly don't know how men can date someone, knowing she's all wrong. I guess it must be the committment thing, or maybe the sex thing. Who knows.<<
I know. The most recent guy I dated... he apparently didn't feel a spark for me. Yet, he kept calling and wanting to see me. I think, if I hadn't called him on it, he would have kept dating me indefinitely (or until Ms. Spark appeared). If I don't feel a spark for someone, I end it. If I feel a spark, but I know he's all wrong, it takes longer - but I end it.
AJ, enjoying life with C.