There's one word in English that I wish would disappear.
Marina, I'm going to suggest that you go to Amazon or your library or where ever you get books and search for perfectionism.
I just dealt with the "where do you want to go?" problem yesterday with people at work!
I have a couple of friends who got involved w/ guys who are recently divorced and the kids haven't had time to deal with it and it's difficult for the women.
He's relating to his "happy time" this could be a long term project.
Well, he was up at 5 AM today in LA's fluke freezing cold wind and rain - 48 degrees at 7 AM!!! - being a volunteer cop at an inner city marathon run for charity;