Can girls make the first move?
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| Thu, 10-20-2005 - 10:59am |
I would like to know if any girls has ever made the first move and it worked or didn't work.
I used to work in a busy emergency department. There is a paramedic that comes in from time to time whom I really have something for. He'll come down to the room I am working in to get some ice and water and we will chat for a bit and joke around. Then sometimes I see him standing in the door way of the ambulance bay watching me working. (And I know that he may not be watching me it just might seem that way. He could be watching someone else or just what's going on in the department.) But are eyes I was seem to catch each others when he is standing there. I have recently found out he is single. (Which is my other dilemna)
One of the nurses at work is really great about getting the scoop, on the guys that come in, for us younger girls. SO weeks and weeks ago, I was telling her about the paramedic and I don't know if he is single. So she said she would find out for me. A couple weeks later when were were talking she was telling me how she gave one of the paramedics her daughter's phone number. (I didn't really understand why because her daughter lives an hour and a half away but she really wants her daughter to meet someone.)
I don't work in that department anymore but I am still in there quite a bit with my new job. Last night was the first time I had seen him since I left so I was really excited. So I was talking to her that my paramedic was in during the day and she missed him that I was going to get her to get the scoop for me. Then she was telling me how this guy never called her daughter and she was really disappointed. Everytime he comes in he will mention how he should call her and never does. We came to the conclusion that it's the same guy. But now I think she is a little annoyed with me that I would like to pursue this guy who she has picked out for her daughter who he is not calling. After I she told me I said well at least I know he is single. Then she said well all of them are single in a bit of an abrupt manner. (Which is totally not true)
Now this may seem a little bitchy but her daughter recently came out with us girls to a party and she seemed to have no trouble picking out her own guys. I know I am bias but from the guys I saw her going for there I wouldn't think she would be interested in this guy her mom has picked out.
When I saw him earlier in the night before this nurse had arrived I had this crazy urge to give him my number. And just tell him if you ever want to go for a drink or coffee give me a call. Is that lame? Should I even try to make a move for this guy or should I assume that if he was interested he would have made a move first? Does the girl asking ever work out? Should I worry about this nurse and her daughter?

Have you indicated to him at all that you are interested?
I recently had a semi-related situation- I was attracted to this guy and we flirted, but then I would rarely see him (he's a courier and doesn't often come into my workplace). Well, I hmmd and haad over asking him out, and next thing I hear is he's dating someone.
So- my advice- flirt it up a bit more and yes, give him your number. Find something to invite him to maybe- like a party or other type of get together that is a bit more casual and not as obvious as a date. Saying something like "this saturday a few friends and I are going to ____, would you be interested in coming?" - that way if he does come you have a chance to flirt in a non-work environment and you'll be with a group of people, so it will be a great chance to just get to know eachother without feeling like you've asked him on a date.
At least, that's what I'd do in that situation. You should defintely act on this before it's too late and you regret it. As for the nurse and her daughter, don't worry about it. Her daughter probably has things under control for herself and the nurse/mom will get over this.
ps- I have made the first move before. Twice-once it flopped and I was stood up, the second time though it worked and our relationship lasted for 4 years. I'm hoping my next relationship won't be started by another "me first move" but I won't be afraid to take the chance if the situation calls for it :)
If you have to ask if you're flirting, then he certainly doesn't know!