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Can someone explain?
| Sun, 06-11-2006 - 2:10am |
There is a drummer whom I’ve seen in 5 shows. The first time two times I was with my then boyfriend and the drummer was staring at me; the third show I was no longer involved, went to a show, spoke with the band for a few and the drummer was staring at me once again; after the show, outside, he approached me, we gave each other a kiss on the cheek and a hug; I gave him my e-mail address and didn’t get a response. The 4th show he didn’t notice me as he done before; I had a flight to catch the next morning, as they went to break, my friends and I left. The 5th show was last weekend. Same thing, he didn’t notice me as he done the previous shows, then during their break, out of nowhere he comes by, gives me a kiss on the cheek and a hug. We spoke and he told me he’s been trying to find my e-mail address; I told him “bull” and he stated “why would I be here if I didn’t want to talk to you”; he then asked for me to stay after the show so he can have my number. When he went back to play, there he went staring at me the entire time. Afterwards, he came by, but before I gave him my number I asked him what my name is (mind you I told him a few months before), sure enough he remembered and stated he will call me. It’s been a week and no call. Can someone explain? Was there no interested on his end? Very confused. Thanks so much!

I'd say he's not all that interested.
Guys like to chase (some women I know do, too) and they can be every bit as flaky as women can. I'd say he'd like to hook up with you, if you'd let him, but he's not prepared to invest or go the normal routes of actually attempting to date. It's not 'cause he's in a band - I led a very successful band in DC/NYC for 6 years and yeah, we get our fair share of interest from women (OK, it was more than our fair share...ahh, those were some good times!) but guys play the "Let me have your number" and then not call game in every environment.
Don't expect the guy to call, if he does, it doesn't hurt to go out, but he gets nothing for free.
His band any good, by the way?
David
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There very popular in NYC and on the East Coast…they’re a great band. Thanks for the advice…I dated a musician who was very faithful even if the women gravitated to him; he just had a good head on his shoulders.
Ahhh, the # game; truth is it makes me feel better…he thought I was attractive but it’s just a game…
Thanks again!