Can you build up chemistry?

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Can you build up chemistry?
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 6:09pm

Is it really hard to build into the chemistry?

I went on a second date with this very sweet guy (bachelor #3), we get along so well (over the phone), he calls me almost daily and I find many things in common. I met with him again yesterday and I was trying to see if I could feel something, I know people say it takes time to get attached to someone and really get to know them. So he wants to see me more often, I have agreed to go on a third date this Saturday. I kind of like him b/c of all the guys I am dating, he's the most proper and gentleman, he wants a LTR, and he hasn't even attempted to kiss me! and I would like to find out if I am going to feel something, so far I only feel like giving him a hug, no crazy attraction or anything, just confortable.

One reason why I am finding hard to developing something for bachelor #3 is b/c I am dating two other guys,(we can call them bachelor #1 and #2) and I am starting to like bachelor #1 more than the others and the attraction/chemistry seems to be there, I am going on the third date tonite, and I can't wait to see him again. Am I running ahead of myself, or do I need to give a chance to the two other guys? In the past, it has happened to me many times, that what always almost turns me off is that the guys I am really into just want to get laid and nothing more. That's my confusion with bachelor #3, since he's been very good and hasn't made any sexual insinuations and wants to build a connection slowly. Whereas bachelor #1 is hinting that he would like to "cook" for me at his house one of these days... and bachelor #2 is already waiting patiently...

What to do?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 8:58pm

Keep dating them all.