The case for settling for Mr Good Enough

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The case for settling for Mr Good Enough
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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 9:55am
Article: http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200803/single-marry


Edited 2/14/2008 7:25 pm ET by hillaryh8er

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 2:40pm
I agree I don't think she sounded that bitter and I took the same type of "moral of the story" that you did from the article.

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 2:39pm

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 3:35pm

I actually don't find lv2breathe's comment sad at all. I think it would be sadder to allow your opportunity to have a child go by because you think you can only do it with a man. I think its great that despite not finding Mr. Right yet, she's willing to go ahead and pursue something that means so much to her, knowing that it may be a more challenging journey.


Plus, I see it as taking destiny by your hands and creating your own fate. Sure, she could continue to wait for a man that may or may not ever come along, instead she's choosing to do something she has some control over; having a baby. It also doesn't mean the child will grow up in misfortune or not know a father figure. How would the country not "ALLOW" something like this. Any individual has a right to be a parent, married or not.


Its not a belief but a life choice when you don't always like the cards you're dealt.

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 4:17pm

Why come here to put other people down?

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 5:59pm

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 9:36pm

Slander? Really?

You can preface whatever you want with saying it with love and compassion, but turning around and saying you find her sad is pretty rude and a contradiction in terms, in my opinion.

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 9:48pm

I don't really care if I change your opinion. But you're not a woman, so you can't know the biological drive to be a mother.

I still maintain that it's better to grow up in a one-parent household with a GOOD parent than a two-parent household with a deadbeat dad (or mom), of which there are TOO many. I have friends who have grown up in such families and I believe that it DOES affect people later in life, particularly when it comes to relationships.

I think you are right that some women aren't meant to be mothers, BUT I don't necessarily think that has anything to do with whether or not you find someone to marry. There are some BAD married parents out there and some great single mothers. Honestly, I have no idea whether I'll ever want to have children. I probably will, but if I feel - when it comes the time - that I'm not ready or don't want to be a mother, I owe it to a potential future child NOT to have children.

It's not that you disagree, I don't mind that. It's how you're saying it that bothers me, it sounds like a personal attack on lv and her beliefs. Calling someone sad is different than respectfully disagreeing. My two cents.

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 10:05pm

Some people are NOT meant to breed.


So because she hasn't found a husband, she's not meant to breed. That is sorry, short-sighted thinking and I wouldn't waste a minute trying to convince you otherwise. Thankfully, its not your say who gets to "breed" or not.


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Thu, 02-21-2008 - 9:54am

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