Casual sex

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Casual sex
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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 4:14pm
I was just wondering what everyone's take on casual sex was. Being single, are you having it or not, and if you are, how do you feel about it?
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Registered: 11-13-2006
In reply to: lovlylady2006
Sat, 12-02-2006 - 12:13am
I'm not. I don't always enjoy being alone but I'm not willing to jump into casual sex. For me, so much more needs to be taken into account first. The whole Sex and the City is not happening for everyone.
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Registered: 08-16-2005
In reply to: lovlylady2006
Sat, 12-02-2006 - 7:48am
I'm single I'm not with anyone right now. I think what someone does in their bedroom is their own business as long as they are taking procautions I really do not care. So casual sex does not offend me in the least. An adult is free to do what they want. I am not currently having sex with anyone.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 11-19-2004
In reply to: lovlylady2006
Sun, 12-03-2006 - 11:55am
I say 'to each is their own'. I don't currently have a 'boyfriend' but that is my choice. I like my freedom too much. I have some issues to still work out. And I certainly am not ready to give my heart to anyone anytime soon. I have a couple of guys as friends and at the moment one friend that I do have sex with. I don't believe he is sleeping with anyone else at the moment but I do not know that for sure and don't wish to know. (We take the necessary precautions) I won't have sex with more than one person at a time though. If I started sleeping with someone else, I wouldn't with him anymore (he knows this)and has said he would extend me the same courtsey. (I might feel differently about him if he ever did tell me) I go out with my friends but haven't accepted a date with anyone else since he and I started sleeping together but not for that reason, it is just where I am in my life right now. It is just something that happens when we both have some free time at the sametime (which isn't often). We usually have dinner, watch a movie and then I stay for the night. It is nice and it works for me and he at the moment. My kids know nothing of the sex part, they know each of my friends only as they are MY friends. I talk to them online or on the phone but no one is allowed at my house. Nor do I do anything with my friends when the kids are with me. Unless of course, it is one of my friends that has kids that are friends with mine. I won't 'date' any of my friends. But we might all go to a football game or something together. The guy I am currently sleeping with knows my kids (we live in a small town-most everyone knows of everyone else) and they know who he is but we don't do anything all together. He is only my friend. So what happens when we are together is for only the two of us to know about (well all you guys now too :-) but you won't tell anyone, right? lol ).
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Registered: 11-07-2006
In reply to: lovlylady2006
Sun, 12-03-2006 - 7:14pm
Yep I'm single and see nothing wrong with casual sex. I'm not interested in sleeping with everyone I meet, but there are times when I meet someone that there's some chemistry with. We're both consenting adults, use more than one method of protection, and are recently tested, so why not? Hehehe. Sometimes the itch just needs to be scratched...... several times.
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Registered: 09-08-2006
In reply to: lovlylady2006
Sun, 12-03-2006 - 7:21pm

If I meet someone I want to have sex with then I do. But I don't really meet that many people that I want to sleep with - I think I'm looking for a bit more then that at this stage in my life. (Did it all the time when I was younger though!)

Lasia

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Registered: 06-24-2005
In reply to: lovlylady2006
Sun, 12-03-2006 - 9:31pm
I'm single and don't really do the casual sex thing. Sometimes though I wish I was capable of it, lol! My big hang-up right now is simply not having sex in almost a year I worry that I'll bleed a little or something and totally freak a guy out! In my last relationship I went through a couple months where I would bleed because of HPV and I've been paranoid ever since! Of course my past couple tests have been normal but I still worry and want to know that the guy can be mature about a little blood.