change o behavior

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Registered: 08-31-2012
change o behavior
Sat, 11-03-2012 - 1:41am

Hello everyone!!

I am confused about the behaviour of one of my colleagues.... Were pretty close at work, we share inside info, we have each others' backs, we argue, flirt, etc.. I'm 28 he's 31. Difference is that I have feelings for him and idk if he does for me... Anyway, last week there was word I was getting transferred and he couldn't let me know....In the end, i didn't end up getting transferred but he told me how all he could think about was how he couldn't tell me that i was leaving and that he couldn't stand to look at me and that it was bohering him all weekend and his family was consoling him... I was kinda surprised because half the time i thought he finds me annoying... I've never seen him so distraught.. I noticed he was behaving weird but thought nothing of it....And now, i feel like he avoids me... Maybe I'm reading too much into it but when I walk past him he won't always say hi or if he sees me he might walk other way... Do you think he realized he had feelings for me and got afraid? I'm in love with him...But I'm afaid of rejection... But why did this affect him so much? I never thought he cared...


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Registered: 07-23-2012
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 1:22pm


Have you thought of maybe asking him out for coffee and feeling him out for how he feels about you?

Are you interested in him?