Changing men?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2006
Changing men?
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Tue, 07-04-2006 - 12:23am

I saw some article on here titled "will he let you change him?"

Ok so do women look for men that will marry them and then try to break them down and change them into the person they want them to be? Is this what I have to look forward to?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2005
In reply to: antisexy
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 12:50am

I just want to clarify that when I say people shouldn't change, I mean that they shouldn't change the core of what they are (unless you know you have some negative traits and you want to change them to better yourself or if you feel that you want to broaden your horizons and try new things you may not have liked before).

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2005
In reply to: antisexy
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 5:18am
I agree with some things you say but disagree with others. Everybody changes as they get older and experience new things. But there are prominent aspects of a person's personality that are exhibited in a wide range of important social and personal contexts. These basically determine how someone behaves in any situation. An extrovert is unlikely to be converted to an introvert or an amicable person isn't likely to suddenly turn violent during a discussion or disagreement. I am not talking about encouraging a meat eater to try a vegetarian diet or training a man to leave the toilet seat down. There are some traits ingrained from an early age and are deeply embedded. A marriage is much more likely to fail before any change takes place in these people. An example would be women who marry abusive men hoping they would change once they get married.

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