The chase
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The chase
| Tue, 06-19-2007 - 2:10pm |
Elwood inspired this post, although it's something I've been thinking of for the past week or so.
Most of us seem to be in agreement that men like to chase.

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He has to call before I can tell him that.
Well I'm not *THAT* dense when a woman says she likes to go out with me.
My first date (dinner) off Match with this woman was "OK." We talked easily and made another date but I did not think she was that into me. Later when we became boy/girlfriend she told me that she was REALLY into me especially at that first date. If she showed that then I totally missed that.
For me, even when a woman says "yes" to future dates I somehow do not equate that as being really interested in me because for me I just see her as a nice person to do things with...
Mark
I have his IM screenname, but we've never chatted (thank goodness) and he's never online.
So what could those women have done to make it obvious?
That's because after a first date, women don't tend to show it if they're really interested.
"That's because after a first date, women don't tend to show it if they're really interested. It makes men run for the hills"
Well, if *I* am really into her then having it reciprocated on the first date would be GREAT for me! I'm at a different life stage than most men you have experienced plus I really never was like that even in my younger years.
Insofar as to your question on what can women make obvious to ME? I guess the words, "I REALLY like you and it would be great if we can do together again so we can get to know each other more" would do it for me. It's explicit, direct, and conveys the message clearly. But that's me. I am a direct kind-of-guy and don't like to do (or even know how to do) the dating dance/game.
Mark
**But then again hanging you but in the wind to me . . . takes big old brass ones.
Yep, and I refuse to grow balls for any man.***
OK . .. THAT made me laugh . . .going to get me in trouble at work . . . ROTFL
Okay- but for MOST men, would that scare them off?
Well, it's true!
******Then there are those I scare away when I come on too strong, too fast when I get a tiny bit of encouraging signals LOL.*****
That time between talking the first time and the first kiss is always stressful to me . .LOL I tend to be blunt. (-: For me it is bad timing or just spit it out. LOL And THAT is not what a single girl has said she enjoyed on this board. Very scary. (((-: I am paying close attention, but can I do it any other way??? ((-: Not like I am out proposing, but I call, and I will just pop up and say what a great time I had, would be nice to see you again?? Hard to get is something I am not known for.
And Shy, like Mark, I like the brick approach . .it removes sooooo much stress in the beginning. Men fake this stuff and all the confidence that goes with it, that's why so many of us do it so poorly. (-:
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