Cheap is Often More than Wallet Deep

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Cheap is Often More than Wallet Deep
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Thu, 09-27-2007 - 11:53am
Your thoughts...and experiences...???


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Registered: 04-25-2004
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 2:04pm

I've generally found this to be very true with most guys I've dated. If they have money but they are still cheap, I've found that they're not willing to invest much-- not just money, but time, energy, emotions-- into the relationship. One guy in college gave me only a card for my birthday and not surprisingly, he broke up with me for a high school sweetheart a month later. Another wasted every paycheck and never had much left for dates-- he eventually broke up with me for another woman. On the flipside, a guy who spent a lot of money on me was furious when I broke up with him-- he even said, "I invested so much in this relationship, why are you doing this?"

So yes, I agree with the article. And I think that even if someone has to be cheap, they can still be frugal and creative-- ie, so you can't afford a fancy dinner, then SPEND time and energy on making something nice and memorable. In fact, that would mean even more to me than something extravagant. But if all they can do is come up with a bad sub sandwich and no idea of what else to do on the date other than have sex, forget it!

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Registered: 08-02-2007
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 2:43pm
>>On the flipside, a guy who spent a lot of money on me was furious when I broke up with him



What was the reason you broke up with this guy ?
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Registered: 04-25-2004
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 5:24pm
A variety of reasons: he had a temper, didn't have the same interest in travel, was very close-minded and was pitiful in bed to boot. I got the feeling he was only interested in snagging himself a wife but not necessarily a wife who he had things in common with and could also consider a best friend. I think he just wanted any half-decent woman for a wife because marrying was more of a goal to accomplish. He wasn't necessarily interested in me as a person, just the role I could fulfill in his life, therefore he thought that if he spent money on me it would be enough to keep me happy.
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Registered: 07-11-2001
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 6:13pm

A girl I know went on a date with a surgeon who told her she could only order from the left side of the menu. He also didn't care much to hold a door open, and actually preferred to almost let it hit her in the face.


He also gave the waitress a miserly tip.


The best part is he is listed as one of my area's sensational singles in a local magazine. Plu-leeseeeeeeee!!!


Bet he's not generous in the sack, but I don't think many women stay around to find out. LOL


Beach