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Cheating ???
| Wed, 02-15-2006 - 11:45am |
I have a question that has been on my mind. What do you think of people who cheat with others who are married? Meaning, the person in single, but he or she decides to sleep with somebody who is married. What does that say about a person in general?? To me, I would never do it, because I would never want it done to me. But I have known people who have had sex with married people. What does this say about their character?? I have always said that I would never be with somebody who has cheated or with somebody who was the one the person cheated with.... Is this unfair? Maybe people change??

I'll speak for myself on this one... I would never sleep with or have a relationship with a married man. Not only do I think it's morally wrong, but I think it's just asking for trouble for a few reasons: he wouldn't be likely to leave his wife for me; if he did, what's to stop him from cheating on me like he did on her?; and I would feel horrible for doing that to another woman - I could never feel good about that.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Edited 2/15/2006 2:43 pm ET by iwillbthere4u
I completely agree.
And, I do judge people based on decisions like this. This kind of behavior (assuming they know the person is married) reveals a lot about character, in my opinion. If they are willing to be this wreckless with something like marriage and "love", I wouldn't be eager to trust them as a friend, confidant, etc. It's wrong on so many levels.
I also think people can change their ways. Would it ever make me want to be with them? Probably not. But I would respect them for realizing their behavior was wrong and trying to rectify a bad situation.
I think there are two kinds of cheaters. Those who are so miserable in their own lives that they'll compromise their morals to try to find a little happiness. These cheaters are the ones who are capable of regret, seeing the damage their actions caused, and changing their ways in the future. The second kind are the people who have lower morals and cheat because they don't care if they hurt other people. These cheaters are sorry they were caught not about what they did, pretend to accept blame but in the next breath try to blame their actions on everyone else, and will never change.
Well, obviously I wouldn't want to date the second kind of cheater. The first kind - maybe. They'd have to convince me that they were truly sorry and had learned from their mistake to become a better person now. Realistically, if I knew someone was a cheater, I'm not sure I could silence the voice of doubt in my head enough to be able to give him a chance.
-sang