Childhood Sweetheart

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Childhood Sweetheart
Fri, 08-15-2014 - 11:01am

Looking for some advice/opinions. Recently re-connected with my childhood sweetheart. He and I text each other a lot but we got together 3 weeks ago when he came to my house to repair my AC unit.  We ended up hanging out till 2am, laughing, talking.  I am curious to "date" him and see where this may lead but he hasn't asked me out.  When he left my house I said its been too long, we should get together for dinner or a drink soon and he agreed that we should.  But....ive talked to him through texts since then and he hasn't asked me out.  Should I just forget about it?  My heart tells me that if a guy is interested he will let me know and the fact that he hasnt asked may be my answer.  What do you think?  We are both single and grown adults, age 53.  Help.....making myself crazy

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2003
Fri, 08-15-2014 - 11:15am

I don't know much about your specific situation and can't say if your man wants a r-ship with you or not, although, generally if a bloke wants you he will make it very clear. Just thought whilst reading your post, omg... 19 to 53? That both you and him - independently - are two completely different people now, without a trace of the kids who knew each other then, goes without saying. But do you think that the two independently different people you have become compared to then are in any way compatible? Could you get on as peope and intimate partners?  Do you have similar thougths and views on important things? Did you grow into two people who could possibly be a couple? If so, da** you are lucky.

When I think back to a child that I was at 19 and the kids of the same age I thought I loved then.... I just laugh. I'm 43... and omg, I could  even superficially converse, for an hour,  with who those kids will  have become now. I just hope it's completely different for you...

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2011
Sat, 08-16-2014 - 8:36am

Your timeline isn't his timeline. There could be any number of reasons he hasn't asked you out, but at this point, does it matter? In these brief three weeks, you both seem to be getting along and enjoying each other's company. That is nice to have. It may lead to more or not. Unless you have a line of guys dying to ask you out and he is at the top of that list of guys, let things happen naturally with him.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 08-16-2014 - 11:08am
Are you sure he's single? Just because he stayed until 2am, that doesn't mean there wasn't someone waiting for him at home.