Choose the sizzle or the steak?

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Choose the sizzle or the steak?
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Thu, 12-01-2011 - 11:42pm

Ah, dilemmas.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 12-02-2011 - 9:33am

My heart breaks for all of us here wanting to give and receive love.. I totally get where you are coming from. As far as Mr.Smith lets hope he keeps his promise. I do so love consistent men who say what they mean and mean what they say..

I know about being female as I have challenges with that myself so I tried to let my vulunerable side show and told new guy friend that I liked him yesterday and that he seems like a nice guy.. He said really? I said yes.. I dont know why but I think you have good qualites and hope the best for you. I let go and dropped the alpha male...and if he notices then okay and if not have to accept that.He did say he would stop stalking me online (lol) and he said he would and

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 12-02-2011 - 1:32pm

I can't see Mr. Hot & Cold being any more than just an exciting temporary fling--look at what you chose to name him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Fri, 12-02-2011 - 10:46pm

You both make good points.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2011
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 9:42am
Does it really matter? One guy is emotionally not there and the other guy is physically not, which makes them both the typical problematic or unavailable men in your life that you'll soon become bored of and the question forgotten. This week it's sizzle or steak, next week might be bangers and mash or brussels sprouts, and later it may be mashed potatoes with gravy or chicken noodle soup.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 10:06am

I guess that is how life is right?? one day is this or that. The next day its something else. Its what makes us all different and what makes the world go around. It makes things less boring..

After my divorce in 2007 I didnt know how my new journey was going to be.. So I started out with

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 10:52am

I've been thinking the same thing, JT.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 10:55am

I've found that posting here is a lot of fun - I used to keep a diary where I wrote all this stuff that I think and do - including stuff about work, parenting and my crazy family.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 11:02am

Me thinks we on here including me are a bit envious of M's pursuits.. in which in turn makes me think we dont take more chances and we dont get out of our comfort zone as much as we should like M does.

I have heard too many times on the board who wont call a man, who wont ask a man out, who wont talk to a man, who is afraid of rocking the boat, etc.etc.

I asked a guy the other day if he wanted to have sex with me.. He turned me down by saying He doesnt do that kind of thing? I told him we are not teenagers and life is short and there are worse things in the world. He said its tempting as you are sexy, attractive and appealing but I just couldnt have a relationship like that.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 11:07am

That's HYSTERICAL!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 11:22am

I met him once OLD and we have been talking since last summer. Only thing he lives the next state over and says its too far for a real relationship... so I hadnt spoken to him in awhile and I figured he was gone. Every once in awhile he would write or text and i would just ignore him..

Last Saturday he wanted to know why I have been ignoring him? I said because you told me we were too far for a real relationship? So he said oh I get it.. So then I figured why not play a bit . First I said you are an idiot because you forgot where I lived and then he said we have been talking on phone last summer. I said not really. It wasnt phone sex?? So he said what about tonight? He meant phone sex? I said no what about real sex? He didnt answer me for two days. He finally writes back and says Oh; I have too much respect for you although its a great offer and blah blah blah blah.. I was like wow you are an idiot. You dont turn down a girl when she offers you sex?? He was more interested in why i was calling him an idiot than me asking him about wanting sex?
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