Choosing boyfriend over friends

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Registered: 06-22-2005
Choosing boyfriend over friends
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Thu, 03-16-2006 - 2:32pm
Just wondering..do you think it is wrong when a girl chooses to spend all her free time with her boyfriend over her friends? Is it such a bad thing that if two people are in love they want to spend as much time as possible together?
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 4:50pm

Yep.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 5:52pm

Regardless of any amount of love, you will always need balance. Your friends fill areas your significant other cannot (and should not, in my opinion).

I've said it before on this board but sometimes, I want to only talk about sports bras, shopping and cramps and there's no way I'm subjecting someone I'm with to that. Guys don't get it and honestly, they shouldn't have to.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 6:05pm
I think it is understandable that, if you guys are new, you want to spend lots of time together. But I think that your friends deserve a few phone calls, right?
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Registered: 08-13-2005
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 6:46pm
Friends should be understanding about your time with your new beau-but only for a brief amount of time. YOu should still phone them and make time for them. Because let's face it, if your friends ditched you when they found a guy, then you'd feel pretty lonely and peed off too. So if you want to maintain friendships and really care about your friends, then try to find balance and make time for them. After all, if things work out and a wedding should happen, a girl does need bridesmaids and guests to attend!
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 4:08pm

ALL her free time, yes, I think that's a bad idea. I think that everyone needs more than one person in his or her life. That means friends, family, coworkers, etc. Those non-romantic relationships take work and maintenance just like any other relationship, and they enrich the person's life.

I also believe that couples are stronger when they each have individual interests and friends. It keeps them interesting and helps them to continue to grow as a human being. I really believe that makes each of us stronger in our relationships as well.

Now, of course, your significant other should be just that - significant. I totally understand when someone spends the MAJORITY of free time with an SO - but not ALL of it.

AJ, enjoying life with C.