"Come talk to my friend"

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
"Come talk to my friend"
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Sat, 09-08-2012 - 12:08pm
Maybe I just expect too much. I dunno. I was approached by a very old man last night in a very awkward manner. He told me that a "buddy" of his sitting behind me at the bar wanted to meet me, but he was too shy to come over. He asked if I was married, and when I told him no, he wanted me to go talk to his friend. I was annoyed, because I was in the middle of telling a story to my friend and it was pretty obvious I did not want to be interrupted. After he asked maybe three times, I finally told him to just give me some time. He left, and I never went to talk to the guy. If its who I think it was, he was very young and incredibly skinny. Not my type. Plus, I wasn't there to meet men anyway.

For me, the junior high approach of a friend coming over is just not a sign of confidence. Shy is one thing, but even shy guys can walk by and say hi. I have no problem approaching if I'm in the mood to and I am interested, but being asked to talk to someone...That's just not my thing. Especially when it's done by a 75 year old man with personal space issues!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2008
Sun, 09-09-2012 - 11:34pm
Whoa, that's kinda creepy. Good for you for standing your ground!
Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 6:20pm
Cfk, it was actually three times in the sane conversation. I kept laughing nervously and avoiding his request, so he kept repeating it! And yes, there was definitely an adult beverage involved. I was dead tired after having a 7:30 am meeting and then working the football game after school, but I didn't care. I needed some relax time. I'm sure you had fun with your nieces!

Music, that's exactly why I wouldn't go talk to the guy. If he can't speak for himself, I'd walk all over him just because he'd let me. I can't respect guys like that.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 4:33pm

If he was supposed to be the "wingman" this was not a good technique--there should be a less obvious way of doing this.  I would also be skeptical about a grown man who can't speak for himself and needs someone to talk to a woman for him.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 3:30pm

Coming over three times was excessive.  I can see how you could have been annoyed.  I'm only jealous that A, you were enjoying some adult conversation and B, were perhaps even enjoying an adult beverage.  I spent my evening with a 14 year old, listening to some techno CD over and over again as we ran to and fro.  Today, I have both of them(nieces).  Tomorrow, I'm going out and it cannot come soon enough!