The competition

A bunch of us went out last night to celebrate birthdays. I invited T (my friend) a couple of weeks ago and he said he couldn't come because he had a pool tournament all weekend and he'd be playing until 1am. No biggie- he was busy. So about 10:30 last night, I texted him and asked how it was going. I assumed he was between games, but through the course of the conversation, it came out that he was finished playing. He just didn't want to come hang out with me. This wouldn't bother me if we weren't friends on top of sleeping together. I just feel lied to. I'll get over it. He was under no obligation to come. It just would have been nice.

I do wonder, though...if he knew that he had competition, would he try harder to keep me around? There's another guy who has been determined to get my "digits" for awhile now. I eventually told him last night that I wasn't available, and he left. There was another guy- someone's husband(!)- who was obviously smitten with me. He sent me a friend request on FB when he left. I've heard stories about him, so there's no way in hell I'd accept that request! Then there's the DHG who would probably have me if I called him. I just don't want to. I definitely have other choices, even if I don't like them.

I'm starting to think...scheme...plan...ways to let T know he needs to work harder if he wants continued access. It may just be a minimal relationship, but it needs work just like any other relationship.