Complaints In Non-Reality World
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| Sun, 04-09-2006 - 11:35pm |
It's Sunday night and I have a night-time ritual that goes something like this: I wash my face and brush my teeth in time to watch Sex In The City while I cozy myself into bed. It comes on every night here in Chicago. I love it. So tonight, I am watching and the more I watch, the more I want to slap Carrie. In this episode, she and Aiden move in together. She has all the compliants any single gal would have when living with a new guy. I can relate. However for the first time, I am irritated because I am looking at Aiden, being so cute with such a great, caring personality and I find myself hating Carrie for dumping him. Does this make sense you might ask, that I am irritated with a fictional character? Probably not. But where is the Aiden Shaw in reality world? I just keep thinking if I could find a guy like him, I would never let him go!
Calie

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Ugh!
I agree with all of you. I'd go for Aiden in a heartbeat. How could anyone cheat on someone like that?? (For the record, I wouldn't cheat on anyone)
Too bad we do live in the real world - I'm not sure guys like Aiden really exist. If I find one, I'll let you know. :)
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I watched a few shows after I heard about it. Some ladies asked me what I thought and I hadn't seen it. Some time later I said I thought it was not really for a "straight" audience, too many double meanings, and that all the characters acted like bi-women I have known, even dated. Perhaps I am wrong!
And by the way, she goes back to "Big" because he is big and Aiden is not as big, but otherwise adorable. The reason he is called "big" is so you understand what TV-land girls "mean" when they pet name their sex partners for discussion among themselves. And the reason you hate Carrie is because she doesn't just admit that what she really really wants, more than what she says she wants with Aiden and the others, what she really really wants: is what she needs.
So what is it? What does she want? What does she neeed????
I asked this question! All the gay women agreed, she's bi and she wants her relationships that are important to be her female relationships. As most gay women will tell you, many have sex with men to achieve "vaginal fullness".
So, Carrie needs Big because he is. Carrie wants her love relationships to stay with the girls. Freud would perhaps deem it latent homosexuality.
My favorite episode: They are waiting for the couple across the breezeway to come home because they don't pull the shade and close the window when they are doing it. The lawyer girl and the one married to the impotent doctor are watching male gay-porn videos bellies down on the bed, Carrie and the one who has sex with eveyone are standing behind them with the binoculars, and lawyer girls says if she doesn't get ... (you know, I can't say it hear but it starts with "l" and ends with "d") then I am going to do it to one of you!" Meaning one of the other girl characters.
This is the lawyer girl who is bi-curious and even tries to start a monogamous lesbian relationship. And the other one, who is having sex with everyone all the time, she went gay in a few episodes.
So, I can only say, it isn't about straight sex at all, it is about "Sex In The City" which is what a lot of people have difficulty with. Do many impressionable people who watch the show really believe this is normal sexual behavior in a big city? When the go there, is this the morality expected of them? Hey, it looks like fun, so why not? I'll go back to the real me when I meet "my Aiden".
One more question: Do any of us know anyone who is straight who acts that way?
Big, maybe. Aiden, sure, but the women, I mean? I have a really tough time with agreeing that the show is about quality relationships enhanced by "the undeflected sex objects of the paricipants" which is how I think Fromm who put it. Eric Fromm. Anyone up on him??
In other words, the entertainment value is there, but when you ask people what the writers are really saying to the masses, I don't think most people understand the subliminal message, or just how far the producers are pushing the envelope. Maybe that's why it won't become a movie. After 108 minutes everyone would catch on.
Oh I know exactly what you mean. In fact, most of the guys Carrie goes out with have been better than the ones I keep running into (in that they will date her exclusively). I've found it nearly impossible to find a guy that will even consider getting involved.
As much as I can relate to that shows trials and tribulations, I can't alway relate to its high points and good moments. Aggravating!
Oh, you are so right. We can interpret it all many ways. You can disagree with me about the underlying sexality messages, essentially I have gotten that from many who love the show.
The message is there and hidden and seemingly obvious to the people who recognize this. You say there is a passion there in Carrie/Big, but passion of what kind. Isn't horniness a passionate consumation when it happens between two close lovers. It makes the sex better doesn't it. Isn't it the same delusion we all but into? "Oh, it's more passionate than that!" And then, "Yew, I said passion, and that doesn't mean I am going anywhere in life with him."
Aiden is not just safe, his character is supposed to perplex us. All the ladies agree she's treating him wrong, doing him wrong, and being very unfaithful. We are supposed to feel that way. Carrie has found her man, but the bi-Carrie is conflicted. She can never really be totally intimate in her brain and her soul with Aiden, because she has this "relationship" with her girl "friends." How many times has she said "they" are her soulmates? And BIG? Hey, it doesn't work all the time because then she would be a monogamous hetero and happy woman. She always falls out with him. Why?
Because it is just the sex and she is not sexually oriented for that kind of sex all the time. She is in love with her girlfriends, get it? I mean that nicely, not bluntly?
No, I don't get it at all. I can understand having friendships with my gal pals that fulfill my life in many ways that a man cannot and vice versa. But that does not mean that I am bi-sexual. Being a woman with close friendships, I realize that I can have that, without it meaning there is anything more than just a friendship. Carrie has her friends and they are close relationships because anyone who lives in large cities all know too well, they become your family. Because most people do not have family in the cities they live in. Most are in different states, so your friendships become a sarogent family. Carrie's friends are her "family", not post-latent sexual tendancies.
Carrie has a bond with Mr. Big. It's part passion and part true love. The reason she could not commit to Aiden was because she was truly 100% in love with Mr. Big. The reason she kept going back to him, when he did not deserve it, was because she was in love with him, not because she is a lesbian. By the way, she called him Mr. Big before she even slept with him. His name is Mr. Big because he is a well known and successful man in NYC. That is how he got is nickname.
As you stated before, you can read into things however you want, but I wonder if you are looking too much into this than it needs to be...
Kcole
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