completely at a loss for an answer

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Registered: 10-18-2005
completely at a loss for an answer
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 10:17am
So heres my story...I met a great guy online who I get along great with...I like him, but he is 2 months out of a two year relationship and isn't really interested in jumping back in one..and I am 2 years out of a 3 year relationship and I enjoy my single life anyways..so I wasn't concerned. Well, after us hanging out as friends for a couple weeks we ended up becoming intimate..which didn't change anything..I still see him as my friend. So, he calls me up and asks me a couple weeks ago if I had ever been to Jamaica..of course I said no and he said "lets go". I said Ok. Well, heres my problem...4 days ago I managed to meet another great guy online...who is more than excited about me...and wants to start spending time with me, who has his life together and isn't fresh out of a relationship...and I like him more in the 4 days I have been talking to him more than my other friend..so, my question is what do I do about my trip...who should i talk to first?
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 11:37am
Is it a FREE trip? If it is, I say go and enjoy yourself :) If you have to pay for it yourself, than I say don't go.
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 12:06pm

It's not clear from your post...have you actually *met* the 2nd guy in person? If not, I wouldn't decide anything until you've met in person and gone out at least a couple of times.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 1:13pm
Unless you're seriously dating this second guy (and from your post, I can't even tell if you've met him yet) you're free to go on a trip with anyone you want. However, if you'd like to be dating this other guy and go on a trip where you're intimate with guy #1 just because, that might start to create a mess for you. Choose wisely, Jamaica isn't going anywhere.
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 1:22pm
I met him last night...and I am going out with him again tonight...you are right...I was hoping it would make my decision easier..but I am worse because I like him..and he works for the sheriffs office so he likes to overanalyze everything..it has been a joke between us for him to stop dissecting me...the problem that I am dealing with mostly is the website that i met them on is a very open meeting place..my profile and friends list can be seen by everyone, and they are both on there together obviously...I really want to tell him...look, I made these plans before I met you..do you want to put this whole thing on hold until I get back?
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 10:14pm

Don't make any decisions based on someone you've known for four days.