confused about convo
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| Sat, 07-15-2006 - 8:05am |
I've been talking to this guy I met recently that I like. Today he asked if I would ever hook up with him. I didn't give him a definite answer and tonight he wanted to come over, but I said no because I had a feeling he wanted something to happen. A mutual friend was telling me they were with some other friends earlier and they had been talking about sex and the guy basically said he didn't care that much about it. I got annoyed because he usually brings up sexual topics with me and I was wondering why he does this if he's supposedly not interested in it. I asked him about it and why he was more eager to come over after he asked about hooking up (I've been trying to spend some time with him as friends so we could get to know each other). He basically said he did just want to hang out (but what he had said about coming over was suggestive so I have a hard time believing that) and that he didn't know I felt that way about him before or else he would've spent time with me sooner. He had a point, so I just admitted that I do like him and he was just like, "Nice. I like that."
So, I have no idea what he meant by that. I think if he liked me he would just say so, but instead it seemed like he was saying that he likes the fact that I like him. So I'm good enough to hook up with, but he doesn't like me?? Does anybody have an opinion on this?
Before I started talking to him very much, our mutual friend would tell me about him and said he talked about wanting a good relationship and a family some day. I guess I'm just confused about what he wants. Whenever he talks to me it seems like he's not interested unless it's about sex, but if he's talking to our friend he acts like it's not a big deal.

I don't think it's confusing at all.
Amy_Eff,
I agee with Cl-Shywon. There is nothing confusing about this situation. He obviously just wants to sleep with you. You just want to pretend that he wants more from you so you can entertain the idea of being in a relationship with him. Stop kidding yourself. He knows that you like him and he's taking advantage of your feelings and manipulating the situation for his own benefit. Don't let him. You need to ask yourself why you like him because he's not treating you with respect. Any man who wants to be in a relationship with a woman would not bring up topics of a sexual nature or be suggestive in any way.
Feisty