Confused - I want to do the right thing
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|Sat, 07-27-2013 - 8:47pm|
Hey hey, I need some advice. I've posted on here before regarding the same guy and your advice have been great, so here I am again.
So I've been going out with this guy for about a month now. On date 4 he wanted us to just exclusively see each other, but I was hesitent, so he said he'll put his dating profile back up again since he'd already taken it down. So we're dating right now under the pretext that we are both still allowed to see other people (but I took my profile down as I didn't really feel the need to be on there at the moment). We talk and text all the time. Neither of us are really talking to anyone else. But I'm sure if someone else messages him on his dating profile that he likes, he'll pursue it.
My thing is - I just don't feel like I want to be exclusively dating him. He's a great guy. He treats me better than any guy has ever treated me. But I just don't feel that "connection" with him. I don't know why. I just don't feel close to him. Although, I think he feels that connection with me. That's why I wanted to give it some time to see if I'll get that feeling. But after a month, you should know if there's potential, right?
And another thing is - I'm reconnecting with an ex from a few years ago. I've never really got over him - and right when I started seeing this new guy, I just felt like I had to reconnect with my ex while I was single. I know it sounds ridiculous. But I just couldn't get him out of my head - obviously I have trouble letting him go. He lives on the other side of the country. Ironically, he just got out of a relationship with the girl that he started dating 2 months after me and him broke up. We're flirting very lightly. But I don't think he's thinking of anything serious about it seeing as in how we live so far away from each other. Plus he's probably in a rebound phase right now. I can tell he's using me to make his ex jealous.
So my issue is - do I keep seeing this new guy when I don't feel the crazy butterflies for him yet? Like I said I think the main motivation for me continuing to see him is because he's genuinely the nicest guy I've ever gone out with. I've always gone for the bad boys and in the end it never works out. So I wanted to give a nice guy a chance. Or should we just keep seeing each other like we've been seeing each other so far - non exclusively dating each other? I've told him I don't want to be in a relationship. I need a third person's opinion on whether I'm leading him on because my ex is in the picture.
This is probably the most confused sounding post ever written.