Contradicting Advice
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| Wed, 08-15-2007 - 10:08am |
So I was in Miami's South Beach over the weekend with 3 girlfriends and as single women do, the conversation turned to men, where are the good ones, how to get one and why are we still single and the conversation turned into an exchange of advice on how to get a man to desire you. But while everyone has their own advice and interpretations, I found that they all really contradict each other.
For instance, this is what I heard:
1) you have to make them chase you, play the rules game cause they want what they can't have
2) pursue them, go after them, then make then chase you
3) date up, as in date men who are more successful than you so they can take care of you
4) date down, if you don't below your "league" then they will apreciate you more and try and hold onto you
5) date on your level, never date below
6) let the man do all the calling
7) call him, what's the harm?
8) don't get mad if he's seeing other women, keep your options open too
9) if he still wants to explore other options after knowing you for awhile, dump him
10) be strong, independent and very busy, act like you don't need him
11) men like to feel wanted, let him know you need him for something
I mean play the game or don't play the game, that is all I ever hear yet by women who are all still single like me. And not only that, I have tried EVERY LAST ONE OF THOSE THINGS and none has lead to a relationship.
I truly believe that when a man is crazy about a woman, he will pursue it and there won't be any need for any games. I get so sick of hearig all these games and advice.
Anyone else?

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