The contruction worker...
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| Tue, 08-07-2007 - 4:22pm |
Ok, I've been posting non-stop on here today, but it's been that kind of day.
The construction worker that I mentioned apparently has a thing for me won't leave my co-worker alone about introducing us yet I've SEEN him about 9 million times over the past few days. I know there's shy, I've been there, but just hi. That's it.
Anyway, so my co-worker came in a few minutes ago basically to get him off her back and asked me if I wanted to get a drink (ie water or something) down the hall so she could introduce us. I feel bad now because I kind of whined about it and she said she'd tell him I was busy, but she said that he was going to go home, take a shower, and come back so he could meet me (he's not actually going to, he just suggested it, which I think is weird and creeps me out a little). There's a difference between interest and fixation and this is all just making me a little uncomfortable and I'm afraid if I even meet him, he's not goign to leave ME alone, and this is my workplace. I'm not really interested in the first place (ie just not attracted AND his English is apparently not great), but I don't know what to do. I don't really care what he thinks, but I'm just afraid of becoming watercooler gossip or the office bitch/snob. I probably should have just met the guy, but I was completely on the spot and really didn't want to. What should I do????

If you're weirded out, tell your HR department and they can let the construction company know. If you see him again, perhaps you should tell him you're not interested directly. Seems like he has a lot of free time despite being on the job.
~Heather~
Ya know, I'd be tempted to tell the friend to tell the worker that he needs to grow a set.
Ehh, not really. I hate feeling guilty and shallow for not dating someone that I'm not at all attracted to! Normally it'd be nobody's business who I date, which makes this situation so awkward...
I'm a little skittish, though, because of bad past experience with overeager guys...ie one guy who showed up unannounced at my house (and I never gave him my address) and called from the front porch instead of knocking...needless to say, I didn't let him in. After that (and I'd already rejected him once when he'd first asked me out...we'd volunteered at a hospital together and he was quite creepy...obviously, haha), he created a fake e-mail/screenname and pretended to be one of my classmates trying to set me up with him. Yet another time, I gave my number to some guy (who I probably shouldn't have), who proceeded to tell me that he'd been in prison before...he called about eight times each day for the next two days before I made up some story about having just gotten out of a relationship and he finally left me alone. SO, I've become a little weary of guys who come on a little too strong, for good reason!