Conversations with men.

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Conversations with men.
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Sun, 05-06-2007 - 12:55pm

I was at a male friends house hanging out late last night and three of us, me being the only female, were discussing dating. One of them started in on a story about a girl whom he took out because they had slept together and he wanted to be polite. I asked him what he had hoped to achieve by said date and he skirted the question by just saying that it didn't work out, she was with someone else now but it's fine, we're friends. Huh? I am thinking, either he wanted us to know that he had gotten some, he DID like her but didn't want to admit it, or he took her out again, not to be polite, but to get some more. What's odd about that is, they are all usually pretty frank.

Boys are weird.




Edited 5/6/2007 1:44 pm ET by cfk_3
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Sun, 05-06-2007 - 1:05pm

>...or he took her out again, not to be polite, but to get some more.<

Bingo. He was just doing what he could to keep her around.

Maybe, maybe not but that would be my impression here.

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Sun, 05-06-2007 - 1:33pm

Yeah, I was just thinking; He probably only SAID he was taking her out to be polite. He probably did want to brag about getting laid but worded in such a way, so I, as a woman, would not be offended. Another thing I just realized, of course he isn't going to answer my question!? I guess it would be rude to just come right on out and say: "I took her out so I could get laid again" and again, a girl was there so lets all pretend we have hearts, shall we?

Why guys don't just masturbate a lot? I don't get it. I would really love to know why that doesn't satisfy them. I mean, of course they're going to get it if they're in a relationship but otherwise? Why use a girl for only that and then fade into obscurity? Seems like a lot of trouble to me when they could just . . .

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Sun, 05-06-2007 - 2:03pm

>Why guys don't just masturbate a lot? I don't get it. I would really love to know why that doesn't satisfy them. I mean, of course they're going to get it if they're in a relationship but otherwise? Why use a girl for only that and then fade into obscurity? Seems like a lot of trouble to me when they could just . .<

There's a male on this board who could answer that.

My take on it is that it's an ego thing. "How many notches can I put in my bedpost," and "How good am I at saying the 'right' thing to get what I want."

It's filling a little hole in their male ego - how attractive a girl can find them. If she finds him attractive enough to sleep with him, he's gotten his fix. And then he can fade into obscurity and move on to the next girl and just do it all over again.

And, yes, I do agree with you that their conversation was changed up slightly because you (a female) was there. Guys would never openly admit how inherently rotten some of them are.

(And for the record, I am certainly not against one night stands or friends with benefits or the like - as long as BOTH parties are completely HONEST about it and OPEN with each other to what is going on.)

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Sun, 05-06-2007 - 3:54pm

>>>(And for the record, I am certainly not against one night stands or friends with benefits or the like - as long as BOTH parties are completely HONEST about it and OPEN with each other to what is going on.)<<<

Amen! Well said!