Could this be true for us all?

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Could this be true for us all?
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Mon, 01-16-2012 - 8:14am

okay.. So the last few months I have been reconnecting with people on facebook.. I knew a guy from my old neighborhood (he is married and just a friend) Anyway; I told him that It would be nice if I met someone... Turns out he labels

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sat, 01-21-2012 - 12:08am

Gleann, I'd be interested to know if you or the others have been thought to be lying OR brazen about the travel alone stuff.

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Fri, 01-20-2012 - 10:44pm

I think that somehow the healthy balance is when one partner doesn't force the other person to change but when each person might voluntarily do things for the other partner to improve the relationship or just because the other person would like something.

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Fri, 01-20-2012 - 10:41pm

Do you think we are scared of love or just scared that it's not going to work out again?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 10:39pm

If I really need to buy something I do much better alone.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 9:53pm

Gleann, thank you for sharing your insightful and interesting perspective.

I share your desire not to conform, and yet I am an instant chameleon when I really like a man. Unconsciously I can become - for a time - almost anything he prefers. I come from a childhood with a mentally unstable parent, so being able to shift my whole self quickly was part of staying safe.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 9:46pm

Honey, I think that if there's a common denominator on this board, it's that we are ALL scared of love.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 8:52pm

Why not go it alone?

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 5:41pm
There are some things I'd much rather do alone that others like company for. Shopping, for example. I hate shopping with other people! My sister is the only one I can shop with without feeling stifled, and that's because we go our separate ways and then meet up when we're done. I prefer driving alone, too. To me, my car and music go together, and I can't blast the music if someone is with me. I think I might prefer to go on vacation alone so I'd have more choices, but I'm too chicken to do that.
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Fri, 01-20-2012 - 4:26pm

wow; you guys are really chatting this thread up (lol)

Well? I have to say that since 2008 I have done things with people and done alot of things alone.. I have flown on a plane to a vacation spot alone and to another state alone a few times.. I have ridden on Amtrak for 24 hours alone.. I have driven a car down to South Carolina alone..

I have gone to movies and concerts alone.. The concerts were outside in summer but I went alone.. I have walked in bars, dance clubs, singles events, miniature golf and have done alot stuff down by the beach when they had something going on alone.. I have done alot of things alone..

Okay.. So now I am SICK AND TIRED OF DOING STUFF ALONE....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Fri, 01-20-2012 - 4:22pm
The King´s Speech, what a great movie! Colin Firth, mmmmm. :-)

Well, my last trips abroad were spent with my parents and other "older" relatives - my folks have never travelled alone and feel safer with me as guide/interpreter etc. Not the most ideal situation (I´d prefer travelling with friends, but it has not been possible for years now), but I get to travel and spend time with others - no problems with "others" being my parents and people their age. :-) And I think you are right, one always finds someone to hang out with on trips.

I have actually been thinking of joining a group tour myself, there are tour operators that arrange tours for singles. Have to consider that a bit more.

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