Crow Sandwich

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Fri, 01-13-2006 - 7:00pm

Hi there all,

I just got back from a couple of days in DC for the job. I posted in Craig's List under the platonic section asking for someone to have dinner with. I emailed back and forth with a few guys and eventually chose one for dinner and had a really nice time last night. He was smart, funny, and a gentleman. He even insisted on buying dinner even though it was meant as a friends kind of thing. Turns out that he's really cute and I found myself attracted to him and.... he's only 5'9". I am sure you all have heard me say I am not attracted to men under 6'. Hal, in particular, will enjoy my eating crow so I thought that I would share the experience.

I had drinks with a friend planned for after dinner and he came along for the first part of that too which was really nice. He is here for work every few months and I am there now and afgain so hopefully I will see him again soon and see whether I can kiss someone who is barely taller than I am. I may have to buy some flats...

Jules

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In reply to: auntjules
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 11:47am
Yeah, what does "laundry list" even mean? And does it really "keep us single" or does it remind us of what we're looking for? Does laundry list mean superficial things? Or real things? Hmmmm, now I'm going to have to think on an otherwise lazy day.
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In reply to: auntjules
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 4:48pm

My so-called "laundry list" (or grocery list, if you prefer):

Hugh Jackman

What I got:

A blonde-haired, blue-eyed, 5'9" guy, who reads every book he can get his hands on.

What I'm saying is if you walk around with a list of what you're attracted to and size up every single guy to this list - "he's great in every aspect except he's just three inches too short - oooh too bad. Next!" You'll be single for a very, very long time.

Great people are everywhere. I'm attracted to dark haired, dark eyed men but I got a blonde with blue eyes. And I wouldn't trade him for anything. I could have thrown him back - thank goodness I didn't.

But, hey - that's just me. If what you're doing is working out for you then, by all means, do it! :)




Edited 1/15/2006 4:50 pm ET by emdeesea
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In reply to: auntjules
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 5:19pm
I think you've mistaken my question on the definition of your term for questioning your advice. Just to clear things up, I understand the term and thanks for the extra bonus of advice.
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In reply to: auntjules
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 6:47pm

There's a difference between listing the things we need and listing the things we want.


I need a guy without a temper, who treats me well, I'm attracted to, and who understands what I'm about.


I want a guy who doesn't smoke, who doesn't have kids, and who has a similar family background.


Jules was simply posting about something that surprised her- that she found herself attracted to someone she normally wouldn't be.


Then the laundry list got brought up, and we wondered why in the world it's called a "laundry" list because the name simply doesn't make sense.


I don't think anyone was saying that they have a list of "absolutes" that are based on looks- except to say we have to be attracted.


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In reply to: auntjules
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 9:26pm
Well put. Much more eloquent than myself.
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Mon, 01-16-2006 - 2:02pm
Yes - but your response had a bit of snark and made me laugh.
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In reply to: auntjules
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 9:10am

As my responses tend to do. :-)

I just can't help it sometimes.

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In reply to: auntjules
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 12:43pm

Unfortunately, I am pretty sure that he gave me the brush off today. I had told him that I would invite him to join my friendster account (he heard a friend and I talking about it), so I sent that to him on Friday. He does not have a computer at home and got the invite this morning and sent me a response saying that it was nice to meet me and that he hoped I enjoyed the rest of my trip and got home safely. He then said to take care and signed the email.

If it sounds like brush off and smells like a brush off, it's probably a brush off. :-)

Not a big deal since we live in separate states, but I would have liked to see him again.

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In reply to: auntjules
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:33pm

I'm glad you learned something about yourself though.

I had that in part of one of my posts recently. I almost felt guilty that, after having gone out with a guy, I was thinking more about myself and how I felt about it than I was of him. I think we have to take those learning opportunities though.

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In reply to: auntjules
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 3:11pm
Yeah, that's true. But I'd rather have the man than the lesson. Hehe.