I have a close friend who is in his 70s.
My marriage was basically a horror show also and I still feel at times to get revenge on my ex.. I have forgiven and mostly forgotten but there are those days I secretly wish he would die..
I dont think though that it jaded me into wanting to be with a nice man but it has left some scars on me that I believe have disappeared hopefully.
I am not sure I want to live with a man again although never say never.. They are just too needy and take alot of work so I not sure I would want to do the work..It would be nice to have an easy breezy relationship without the work.
Thanks for your thoughtful reply, Mark.
I think your friend is very narrow minded.
I do think that we probably realize the most growth by being in relationships and learning how to give & take with someone else, but 1) I don't think it needs to be a romantic relationship and 2) even if it's a romantic relationship I also don't think you have to be married and/or live together.