crush on a married man

Ah, yes...I was in love w/my own married man--at work, no less--and that obsession lasted 4 yrs. Even while I was at the altar last year, I found myself thinking about him.

My advice? MMs are like junk food: an occasional treat that tastes great, but not very filling and bad for you ultimately. Enjoy it as a crush, daydream if you must (you probably will anyway, no matter what we tell you), but DON'T take it any further than you already have.

Also, you don't mention what kind of work you do, but dating on the job--especially w/a man who's taken--won't do much for you professionally. And by and large, when office romances break up, it's the woman who either walks or wishes she had.

Look elsewhere, and leave this predator alone. I feel for his wife, even if he stays w/her; after all, he's already demonstrated to you that he's a liar and unfaithful. Is THAT what you want in a mate?

Ash

I can sympathize because I, too, have a big crush on a married woman I work with--for over 3 years. She knows it and has warned me not to say anything too personal to her.I must be extremely careful nothing slips out and act as a casual acquaintance would. It is very hard because I have strong feelings, but have not or probably ever will go out with her. She wont even have a coffee with me.I dont see her that often, fortunately. I think she likes me but not in the same way. SHe is happily married and I have no chance at all! To keep her distance, she answers questions briefly and evasively sometimes and works hard all the time. I have no answer to your dilemma, sorry. Unrequitted really sucks and finding someone new doesnt always work; the cycle might continue. Sometimes I think about one aspect of her I do NOT like and that helps a bit.