The Cure for Loneliness

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Registered: 02-26-2011
The Cure for Loneliness
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Wed, 01-18-2012 - 11:43pm

I've read so many books and articles on curing loneliness, including those that think it's a mental problem.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 6:54pm

I love being alone...some of the time.

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Registered: 01-02-2012
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 3:08pm
Most of the time I enjoy my own company, I spend many hours reading, listening to music, watching TV or a movie...and I have a really good time! But, there are times I do feel lonely, and miss that The One could be there with me. And I miss my friends - who are now very busy with their families and I barely see any of them anymore. Luckily, I have my parents and a couple of single g-friends too. I sometimes go out for a walk or downtown just to see people - although I don´t know them. :-) Or, I text my friends just to hear what they are doing (perhaps they take the hint?). Facebook is a great thing too. Preferrably, I would meet a friend or two - but the last few years it is a recurring theme that even a coffee is difficult to arrange.... So, I am glad I enjoy my company! And, my choir is so incredibly important to me for the social part of my life.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 11:08am

An interesting topic.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 11:07am

Thank you Free for your eloquent post.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 8:51am

There is a remarkable book entitled Loneliness by Robert Weiss that addresses a lot of your comments. Some excerpts:

Loneliness is not simply a desire for company, any company; rather, it yields only to very specific forms of relationship. Loneliness is often uninterrupted by social activity; the social activity may feel “out there,” in no way engaging the individual’s emotions. It can even make matters worse. However the responsiveness of loneliness to just the right sort of relationship with others is absolutely remarkable. Given the establishment of these relationships, loneliness will vanish abruptly and without trace, as though it never had existed.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 8:19am

This is a good one and let me see how I can contribute..
There are days that I wish I had someone but that alone wouldnt take away my lonliness. Actually I dont ever feel that lonely because as you guys know. I dont live alone so I always have someone in the house to talk to. We also have a cat that keeps us busy..(lol)

Where I live its an area where there is a huge sense of community.. All I have to do is walk around and talk to neighbors or go across the street and visit a neighbor ... I have had people search me out at times and come over and we all hang out or find something to do.

People are always visiting the house here so there is always something going on.. I also have my friends who call me and we do things and when I really feel bad I am on facebook and I have my social network..which

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 1:33am

When I was out of work and no relationship, I got a dog which helped a lot plus I would work out a lot to the point where I was too tired to really feel that lonely.

I also found websites like iVillage where I would interact with people as well getting on dating websites.