Dancing with guys at clubs - what do ...

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Sat, 05-06-2006 - 8:18pm

Dancing with guys at clubs - what do you usually experience?



  • We bump and grind...and I like to feel his manhood grow
  • We bump and grind and he can keep his cool until later
  • I don't like to bump and grind unless it's my boyfriend
  • I'll bump and grind with a stranger and get him excited, makes me feel desired
  • I do it just to check out the different size packages available
  • It's not for me, I'm not much of a dancer


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Registered: 05-06-2006
Sat, 05-06-2006 - 8:21pm
So, from time to time my friends and I head out and go clubbin' for a good time. Of course that means that sometimes we end up dancing with some guys. In my experience I'm used to and expect the guy will eventually bump and grind with me....and as such I'll be able to tell when his little man is getting excited. Some of my friends agreed, some mostly agreed but said that usually guys keep their cool when bumping and grinding. And one, visiting from out of town, said that she wouldn't be comfterable with bumping and grinding with some guy at a dance club she had just met. So to all, what are your experiences and expectations in such a situation?
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 05-07-2006 - 2:27pm

The whole "grinding" thing is yet another reason why I avoid eye contact with men at bars.

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Sun, 05-07-2006 - 7:14pm

I totally agree and hadn't been bar-dancing for a few years. Last fall, a friend and I went to a bar and were witness to how far the bump and grind on the dance floor has evolved and yuck. I felt like a needed to smoke a cigarette and shower after watching the antics. Take it home (or at least to your car) is my opinion.

I'll stick with the ballroom/latin dances.

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Mon, 05-08-2006 - 1:44pm

I'm male and I have a question for "dirtyfun" and any other girls who often go to clubs:

Which of the following would make you REALLY angry: the "pushy" guy who comes up from behind and puts his hands on you, or the "indecisive" guy who stands around near you and looks at you, but does nothing?

In my opinion, standing around for too long (like a few minutes) is a kiss of death, no matter who the guy is, and girls prefer to see some decisiveness; most guys who just stand and look are dismissed as "losers," is this true?

Also, how would you generally like to be approached in a club, and by whom? Thanks a lot.




Edited 5/8/2006 2:49 pm ET by ukw1980
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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 1:30pm
Sheesh, I can't even answer this poll since I don't really know what bump and grind means and have never seen it done! Shows how long I haven't been to a club. I'm 35 and almost divorced (married 12 years) -- going dancing is one of the things I'm really looking forward to doing. I love to dance at clubs and used to go a lot during college (just to dance). Now I wonder what "new experiences" I would be getting!
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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 7:48pm

Just imagine some guy you've never met with an erection coming up to you, grabbing your butt cheeks, and rubbing himself up against you to the music.


Sounds lovely, doesn't it?


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Registered: 05-19-2003
Wed, 05-10-2006 - 12:14pm

There wasn't an option I could choose.

I don't mind bumping and grinding with a guy a know (especially one I'm dating) but if a stranger gets too aggressive or nasty, I was gladly push him away. I really don't want to feel some strange guys erection on me. Blech!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-10-2006 - 1:51pm

Man, I'm feeling old...people actually DO this, and don't get slapped????

Sheri

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Wed, 05-10-2006 - 3:47pm

I can tell you I'd be much more pissed at the agressive guy that has his hands all over me which is a total violation that the indecisive guy (and I'm not sure what you mena by that). If the guy isn't dancing, I'll dance alone, with friends or find some else. But that wouldn't piss me off.

And the best way for a guy to approach me is to smile and ask me to dance.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 05-10-2006 - 10:14pm

I don't get it either.

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