Dancing with guys at clubs - what do ...

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Dancing with guys at clubs - what do ...
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Sat, 05-06-2006 - 8:18pm

Dancing with guys at clubs - what do you usually experience?



  • We bump and grind...and I like to feel his manhood grow
  • We bump and grind and he can keep his cool until later
  • I don't like to bump and grind unless it's my boyfriend
  • I'll bump and grind with a stranger and get him excited, makes me feel desired
  • I do it just to check out the different size packages available
  • It's not for me, I'm not much of a dancer


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Registered: 09-01-2004
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 10:22am

I agree. Sheri, it's got nothing to do with age. I have never allowed any man to place his grinding hips anywhere in my vicinity in public whether I know him or not. Any man who tries that with me is gonna get one large, stinging slap across the face. I find it presumptuous for any stranger to take those sorts of liberties with my personal space.

Personally, I think that it is disgusting, completely improprietous, and immature. I don't even like seeing other people do it. That's why I don't go to clubs or bars where that kind of dancing happens.

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Registered: 04-13-2006
Sat, 05-13-2006 - 4:47am

Well now I guess I feel sleazy.

I go to clubs like that and occasionally dance like that. I dont grab a girls butt and grind my crotch deep into her hip or anything like that. But I go to dance clubs and the people that are there, "grind" as you describe it. Although I have the feeling I am younger than most people on these boards so it might be a generational thing. I have friends that are girls that do it and have called some guys who dance too close and drive there erections into them "erection pile drivers" lol.

I have always seen dancing as semi-sexual anyway but what is "proper" dancing to most of you?

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Sat, 05-13-2006 - 12:28pm

A dance is just a dance, not a promise of anything more.

Unfortunately, a lot of girls do think it is appropriate for a guy to handle her body as if she is just an object for his personal enjoyment.

As for me, I will stick with the ballroom/latin dance and that is what I am teaching my girls. Of course, they will learn fast-dancing from their friends and at the same time, I will be teaching them to have enough respect for themselves to not let a boy treat them that way.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 05-13-2006 - 1:17pm

With a stranger? If you're dancing to a fast song, there's no need for any physical contact at all and it would freak me out if a guy tried to touch me. I won't dance to a slow song with someone I don't know (and if I were to do so after a few fast dances, I would keep some distance between our bodies).

Now, if it's your bf, that's a different story...more touching would be appropriate, although of course there's a limit to what you'd do in public.

Man, I feel for parents these days..."but all the kids are rubbing up against each other and getting hard ons, Mom, why can't I do that?" GROSS!!!

Sheri

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Registered: 04-13-2006
Sat, 05-13-2006 - 1:46pm

I am just curious how old everyone is...or age range b/c I know it is rude to ask a woman her age.

I am still in college so I guess I am one of those crazy kids who do that stuff lol.

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Registered: 08-13-2005
Sat, 05-13-2006 - 1:58pm
I think this is the silliest poll. YOu forgot one option: "I love to dance, but I don't bump and grind because I think it's silly and would just rather dance normally instead of act like a sex object"
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Registered: 12-20-2005
Sat, 05-13-2006 - 6:43pm
Well said.

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