Dancing the night away

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Dancing the night away
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Sun, 11-25-2012 - 11:34am

Or I should really say the weekend--I actually went swing dancing to 2 diff. places, once on Fri & again on Sat w/ the same 2 girls.  I take ballroom, Latin & swing lessons, but the only times I have been out to a dance that was not sponsored by my school, it has been to ballroom.  A couple of weeks ago I went to a ballroom dance that I have never been to before & it was kind of disappointing.  It happened that 2 guys I knew were there so I did dance w/ them and they always do "mixers" where you get in a line of men & a line of women and dance w/ the next person coming up.  Aside from that only 1 guy asked me to dance--but he happened to be cute.  It was very frustrating because I am actually a good dancer, but how do you let people know that if they won't ask you?  But my friend who goes there a lot said it was much more crowded than usual so I don't know if that had anything to do with it--too much female competition maybe?  I also didn't find the people to be very friendly.  It was so crowded that my friend & I had to scramble to find 2 empty seats at a table and none of the people sitting near us even said hi.  At one of our school dances if new people come, everyone is friendly and the teacher/organizer will make an effort to say hi, introduce them to people, etc.

So I found the atmosphere at swing was much more casual and friendly.  The 1st place we went to on Fri, there were people there from college kids on up to people over 60 and everybody is really just there to dance.  Guys who were in their 20's would ask me to dance.  I didn't see any men there who were potential dating prospects though.  But Sat night I noticed 3 or 4 of the same guys at this place even though Fri was near Boston & Sat was in RI--I guess there are dances at diff. places every weekend and people who are really into it travel around to all of them.  So I counted it up later and at least 7 diff. guys asked me to dance and some of them more than once.  Now considering I'm not the "beautifull girl" type that guys will fall all over to talk to, I felt that was doing pretty well.  My friends got asked to dance a lot too.  I really hate it when I go somewhere to dance and spend a lot of time sitting around.  I did start talking to one guy and told him that I was originally from RI so we talked about where we went to high school & he mentioned that he used to go to track meets at my high school and then said "but of course I'm older than you"--but when he said when he graduated we were actually one year apart.  So being that RI is such a small state, of course we knew someone in common.  And I was impressed that he remembered my name cause he & his friend were standing by the door when we were leaving and said goodnight Liz (and he knew my friend's name too so I wouldn't get too much of a big head about that) but he was definitely cute--and there were a couple of other cute guys there too.  So this might have to be a new hangout for weekends.

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Mon, 11-26-2012 - 11:06pm

Just to give you guys an example, this is a bolero, not swing, which I think is the most romantic dance.  And I could do this if I had a good partner, like my teacher.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J2w62OqyQ3o&feature=related

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Mon, 11-26-2012 - 11:06pm

Ha reminds me of that movie Dirty Dancing which was great.. Remember how they all sweated alot when they danced ...

 

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Mon, 11-26-2012 - 10:56pm

However, consider being pressed up against a guy who is not sweaty, good looking and moves in a very sexy manner--we call it vertical sex.  There is something very erotic if you dance with someone who can partner well with you--why do you think all the people on Dancing with the Stars are getting romantic behind the scenes?

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Mon, 11-26-2012 - 9:06pm
And people wonder why I don't like to dance. It isn't just the fact that I'm bad at it, but also that men get sweaty and its just gross. The thought of being cramped on a dance floor pressed up against some sweaty guy just makes my skin itch. How on earth is that sexy?
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Mon, 11-26-2012 - 8:17pm

After my biker ex, I no longer have any attraction to bikers--wonder why?  I do have a good friend from my dance class who is really hot (in looks--great body and looks like Daniel Craig) but when we have dance practice in the summer, he does sweat right through his shirt.  By the end of the night, I'm telling him that we better not be dancing any close dances--however, at least it makes me feel better if I'm sweating--but for me, it's usually just on my face (and my hair will get all frizzed up--very attractive)--I don't sweat on the body.

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Mon, 11-26-2012 - 8:14pm

I have a client who's about 20 yrs younger than me, homeless, has mental problems & drug problems--he is very smart and can be very charming when he wants to be.  He's always trying to flirt with me.  Last week he sent me a friend request on FB--can you believe that one?  I told him not to take it personally but I was not about to be friends w/ him.

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Mon, 11-26-2012 - 5:58pm
  • U may not want to touch him but what about giving him a hot shower?   Sorry, I have  thing for bikers, construction workers and I do like them a bit dirty or sweaty.  (in a sexy way....not a disgusting pig sweating)  Just saying!   Sweating because you have to walk to the boys room is so far diff than sweating because you danced your ass off!
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Mon, 11-26-2012 - 2:52pm
When I tell people that I'm not on FB they look at me like I'm an alien. I'm extremely private. I don't want to be Google-able. Well, unless I found the cure for cancer, maybe. The guy I dated back in June for a hot second wasn't anywhere to be found on the interwebs either. You just need to make a point to hit up that club again ;]
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Mon, 11-26-2012 - 1:52pm

Another good story from the weekend!  And yes, better not to find his name associated with anything bad.

FWIW, I think guys in RI are generally friendlier than MA.  Or maybe it's because I meet a lot of people here who dismiss you if you don't live in Boston proper.  People in RI always seem a little more laid back and genuine.  So I definitely think you should keep going to the dances there!

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Mon, 11-26-2012 - 11:20am

I guess the good part is that I didn't find his name associates with any crime stories, right?

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