Dancing the night away

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Dancing the night away
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Sun, 11-25-2012 - 11:34am

Or I should really say the weekend--I actually went swing dancing to 2 diff. places, once on Fri & again on Sat w/ the same 2 girls.  I take ballroom, Latin & swing lessons, but the only times I have been out to a dance that was not sponsored by my school, it has been to ballroom.  A couple of weeks ago I went to a ballroom dance that I have never been to before & it was kind of disappointing.  It happened that 2 guys I knew were there so I did dance w/ them and they always do "mixers" where you get in a line of men & a line of women and dance w/ the next person coming up.  Aside from that only 1 guy asked me to dance--but he happened to be cute.  It was very frustrating because I am actually a good dancer, but how do you let people know that if they won't ask you?  But my friend who goes there a lot said it was much more crowded than usual so I don't know if that had anything to do with it--too much female competition maybe?  I also didn't find the people to be very friendly.  It was so crowded that my friend & I had to scramble to find 2 empty seats at a table and none of the people sitting near us even said hi.  At one of our school dances if new people come, everyone is friendly and the teacher/organizer will make an effort to say hi, introduce them to people, etc.

So I found the atmosphere at swing was much more casual and friendly.  The 1st place we went to on Fri, there were people there from college kids on up to people over 60 and everybody is really just there to dance.  Guys who were in their 20's would ask me to dance.  I didn't see any men there who were potential dating prospects though.  But Sat night I noticed 3 or 4 of the same guys at this place even though Fri was near Boston & Sat was in RI--I guess there are dances at diff. places every weekend and people who are really into it travel around to all of them.  So I counted it up later and at least 7 diff. guys asked me to dance and some of them more than once.  Now considering I'm not the "beautifull girl" type that guys will fall all over to talk to, I felt that was doing pretty well.  My friends got asked to dance a lot too.  I really hate it when I go somewhere to dance and spend a lot of time sitting around.  I did start talking to one guy and told him that I was originally from RI so we talked about where we went to high school & he mentioned that he used to go to track meets at my high school and then said "but of course I'm older than you"--but when he said when he graduated we were actually one year apart.  So being that RI is such a small state, of course we knew someone in common.  And I was impressed that he remembered my name cause he & his friend were standing by the door when we were leaving and said goodnight Liz (and he knew my friend's name too so I wouldn't get too much of a big head about that) but he was definitely cute--and there were a couple of other cute guys there too.  So this might have to be a new hangout for weekends.

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Sun, 11-25-2012 - 12:07pm
That sounds like fun, Music. A girlfriend of mine was telling me, weekend before last, that she closed down a dance club for the first time in ions (we live in different states) and it took me back to my early 20's when that was an every Friday or Saturday night occurrence. She was talking about how hot it was and I remember there being nights when I'd leave the club with wet hair, I'd danced so much. I know that's gross, but again, I was not much more than a child and didn't know any better. Plus, this wasn't a refined Latin or Ballroom dance club. It was usually some underground House/Techno dive. Anyway . . . sorry to reminisce on your thread . . . I hope you see cute, good-memory guy again *wink* Was he a good dancer?
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Sun, 11-25-2012 - 3:49pm

Yes he was good enough--he was trying to show me some step that I just couldn't get.  There were a few guys there who got so sweaty that I noticed they brought a change of shirts!  I think that's a good idea cause there was a young guy I danced with Fri. night who I noticed that by the end of the night his shirt was soaked through--that's gross.  Who wants to touch that guy then?  I was glad I got him early in the night. 

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Sun, 11-25-2012 - 4:15pm

Wow sounds like you had a ton of fun.  I agree that the swing place should be worked into your rotation of dance venues.  Perhaps you'll run into that guy from your high school again and dance many nights away ;)

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Sun, 11-25-2012 - 8:18pm

that sounds great and I think that the powers that be say that when you frequent the same establishment a few times one is bound to meet someone.. .... or it could be Mr.Rhode Island. Hey; you never know.

I also remember back in the day when me and my friends went to one place every week for six months or so we would meet the same guys over and over.. I think that is why they also say to join something like a hiking club or bowling or something of interest. makes sense (lol)

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Sun, 11-25-2012 - 11:05pm

This is funny--I sent a FB message to the guy from my high school who Mr. RI asked me if I knew--I didn't say "who is this guy that I met?" more like "hey your name came up last night in conversation, so I guess you're famous."  I did tell him the guy's first name & where he went to school and he knew exactly who I was talking about, told me his last name, what track event he did and siad "he's a nice guy."  (My friend is an ex-police chief so I guess I would trust his opinion on that.)  So of course I decided to Google him--and found nothing!  How can that be?

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Sun, 11-25-2012 - 11:11pm
Perhaps that guy lives his life out of social media. That's probably a good thing =)
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Sun, 11-25-2012 - 11:41pm
I don't show up on Google searches except in those "find your address" ones, which I think you have to go to specifically. It's been awhile since I've tried it. I'm not even sure if my FB shows up. I think I have it set to be excluded from searches. My name is rare, too. I can find other people with my same name, but not myself. I always thought it was strange, but I guess I'm just not all that important!
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Mon, 11-26-2012 - 11:20am

I guess the good part is that I didn't find his name associates with any crime stories, right?

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Mon, 11-26-2012 - 1:52pm

Another good story from the weekend!  And yes, better not to find his name associated with anything bad.

FWIW, I think guys in RI are generally friendlier than MA.  Or maybe it's because I meet a lot of people here who dismiss you if you don't live in Boston proper.  People in RI always seem a little more laid back and genuine.  So I definitely think you should keep going to the dances there!

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Mon, 11-26-2012 - 2:52pm
When I tell people that I'm not on FB they look at me like I'm an alien. I'm extremely private. I don't want to be Google-able. Well, unless I found the cure for cancer, maybe. The guy I dated back in June for a hot second wasn't anywhere to be found on the interwebs either. You just need to make a point to hit up that club again ;]

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