The dark stuff

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Registered: 07-16-2001
The dark stuff
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Sat, 10-22-2011 - 10:18pm
I'm sure we all have our secrets. Those dark things about us that we keep hidden away and don't reveal to anyone. Things we've said or done or experienced that we know others will judge us for.

When I was in college, I had been single for what seemed like forever and made out with a guy whose girlfriend was out of the country. It was a dumb thing to do, but at the time I justified it by telling myself that he cheated on her often and he pursued me pretty heavily. I don't share that with many people, though. I have other secrets that I've never told anyone for fear of being judged. But they weigh on me sometimes.

My question is...How do you deal with your deep, dark secrets? Do you reveal them to close girlfriends or serious boyfriends? Or do you just keep them to yourself?

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Avatar for floridagirl52
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Registered: 10-16-2006
In reply to: shywon
Sun, 10-23-2011 - 7:04am

I have a best friend of 50 years to whom I can tell anything. But even with her, there are a few things I've never disclosed, not that they are that terrible. I think it's quite all right to keep some things to yourself. However, I have kept a journal since the age of 15, so it's all in there.

Avatar for cfk_3
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Registered: 05-14-1999
In reply to: shywon
Sun, 10-23-2011 - 10:21am
I tell my best friend almost everything, but there are some things that I will never share with anyone.
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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Sun, 10-23-2011 - 10:25am

I am pretty much the same way.

Avatar for mhash
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: shywon
Sun, 10-23-2011 - 9:58pm

Here is one method

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: shywon
Mon, 10-24-2011 - 11:11am

I guess I must be kind of boring cause I can only think of one thing I haven't told anyone cause it would just be too embarrassing to me--it wasn't something that I did that was wrong, just kind of stupid.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
In reply to: shywon
Mon, 10-24-2011 - 1:32pm

I keep them 100% to myself, actually savoring most of them!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2009
In reply to: shywon
Mon, 10-24-2011 - 2:45pm
I can't keep things to myself, so I end up telling someone who would be familiar with the situation, different friends for different situations.
Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Mon, 10-24-2011 - 7:48pm
Marina- I have a feeling yours are much juicier than mine! I don't think I could ever tell anyone all of them, though.
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Registered: 08-06-2006
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 10-29-2011 - 12:24am
I have some secrets that I'm not to sure I'll share. But I've told some! I've just begun journaling again which helps.
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Registered: 02-26-2011
In reply to: shywon
Sun, 10-30-2011 - 5:17pm

Please grant me the movie rights in your will!

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