Is this a date?

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Is this a date?
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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 8:07pm

I need your help as I m not a native speaker of English.
we dated few times, kissed and slept together about 4-5 times then he travels for work. we stayed in touch through MSN. While chatting he mentioned once that he likes to be FRIENDS(I took it that he wants nothin more). 2 months later, he is back. He gets two months off so not working the next two months. He knows I m into sports and go to gym everyday. He calls to tell he got a membership in my gym (not the closest to his place) and that I should call him whenever I go so we could workout together. Then he suggests to play squash: "also we can play squash whenever you have time, so we would do a squash date ..." and asked if I can spot for him! so I said you want me to be your personal trainer?

My Question: does he mean by Squash date a DATE or a time agreed to meet at??? sort of language question here I guess :)

Also would a guy interested in a girl would he want to meet her in the gym where everyone is smelly and stinky?

I ve never been interested in socializing in the gym let alone going there with friends but if this is an excuse to go out with him again then I might consider it(I had stopped contacting him kuz I got some confusing signals and did not need further confusion)




Edited 4/6/2006 9:04 pm ET by juliara2003
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 9:50pm

I think it depends on his other behaviors.

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 04-07-2006 - 11:34am

It's not a date.

It's sporting lexicon - squash date, tennis date, golf date, etc.


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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 04-07-2006 - 11:43am

A squash "date" is just a meeting. You can have a squash/tennis/lunch date with someone of the same sex, platonic friend, etc.

But, if you two have slept together, I can see how the lines are a bit blurry. Very confusing!

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Fri, 04-07-2006 - 12:16pm

>that he likes to be FRIENDS

A man would NEVER say this if he was really into you. It doesn't matter what he meant by 'date', he isn't into you.

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Sat, 04-08-2006 - 2:44am

>A man would NEVER say this if he was really into you. It doesn't matter what he meant by 'date', he isn't into you.

exactly! I just wonder why he called me 3 times in the past 4 days. It s been a while I ve been ignoring him kuz I could not figure what he really wants and I told him I dont want to be intimate with anyone outside the relationship context.
Anyway more confusion last night when I was online and he messaged me and was so flirty.
he probably thinks he can make me change my mind.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Sat, 04-08-2006 - 3:23am

>Anyway more confusion last night when I was
>online and he messaged me and was so flirty.

No confusion. It has been 2 months since he had sex and is hoping you will oblige. Sorry to be crude, but I think it is the right answer.

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Sat, 04-08-2006 - 10:15am

He might say it if he were into sex with her, as you pointed out below.

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Sun, 04-09-2006 - 2:48pm
It sounds to me that he might be semi-interested but not that interested if he used the word "friends" beforehand. It sounds like maybe he is looking to be intimate with you though without any expectations if he's trying so hard to contact you and get together with you. I think you are right in believing that he might be trying to change your mind and maybe wants the sex part without the attachment. If you are wondering though I would just ask him what his intentions are with you now. Tell him that you have noticed he's called you more often lately and you are wondering if he wants something more than a friendship with you. That way there are no guessing games if he is fully honest with you.