Date #5 and he's still nervous
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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 12:23pm |
I don't know what to think of this situation...
I have been out with this guy 5 times as of yesterday, we'll call him Dan. First date was just a drink, second date was dinner and a movie, third was lunch, fourth = pool and a beer, and yesterday was an afternoon video at his house.
So, the dilemma I have is that I like him, he's a nice guy, I'm attracted to him, BUT...
He is so nervous around me (he's the same one I posted about who won't call). He seems to be measuring everything he says, he's kissed me a few times but seems to be afraid to do so each time (two pecks and one really nice REAL kiss), and he can't seem to think of much to say to me. I can hear the nervousness in his voice whenever he talks to me.
I feel like, by date 5, we should have reached more of a comfort level than that. I am finding it really hard to be attracted to someone who is so nervous - and I'm a little puzzled about why he's that way. I make conversation easily, so I haven't really given him a reason to panic.
Bottom line - does this sound like a situation of "he's just not that into me" and, if he were, he'd be more aggressive? I'm just not sure if I should decide to move on, or give him more time. It's becoming uncomfortable to be around him, but I also don't want to be someone who bails on a guy too soon.

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Sometimes it's just easier when it's done for you.
>>Thanks for posting, I am just starting to date again after 10 years so I'm a little rusty. It helps to see what you and others are going thru b/c I agree I would rather be with someone who is confident and doesn't need a mother figure(my ex).Been there done that.<<
Welcome to the club, Pam! It is hard to be back "out there" after being in a long-term relationship and it's nice to come here to share stories, and to not feel like we're each alone in it.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
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