Date anxiety

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Date anxiety
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 11:56am

So Saturday I am going on the first date I have been on in 1 1/2 yrs--kind of pathetic, I know.  At least I thin it's a date--more about that later.  In Feb. I met a guy at a dance.  We have mutual friends.  He didn't know anyone else at that dance & I knew a lot of people.  I introduced him around but he danced with me more than anyone.  At the end of the night, since we belong to the same group, I said something like "Oh, maybe I'll see you at an event" and he said "I have your number.  I'll call you" but I never thought he actually would.  We hugged goodnight.  the next 3 weekends in Feb. were snow storms.  So 3 weeks ago, he emailed me to ask me if I wanted to go to a dance on 3/23.  I said yes.  Didn't hear from him after that until last weekend, when he emailed me to remind me of the dance.  I didn't think about it that much during that time or at least tried not to, figuring he might forget, something might come up--it's so far away, try not to obssess about it.  Last night he emailed me again to give me the time & place.  Now I never expected him to pick me up at my house--if he suggested it, I'd say don't bother, because he lives about 45 mins. from me and going to where I live would be very out of his way.  I did write back asking how we are going to find each other & asking for his phone number--this is some kind of huge dance weekend at a hotel that is supposed to have 100's of people--I wonder if he knows that.  It's not like one dance in a little hall where you are certain to find each other.  He didn't offer to pay or say anything about it so I won't assume he is going to pay, so then I'm wondering if he considers it a romantic date or just friends getting together--I'll start off assuming more of friends since we don't really know each other too well anyway.  Maybe he just wants a dance partner.

I have been not thinking much about it all along but of course since last night, now I have anxiety over all of this.  My son had to go to school later today and I was thrilled to be able to sleep an hour later and I woke up about 5:00 am & couldn't get back to sleep and then my stomach is in a knot.  I'm sure I'll be fine once I'm there since he is a very friendly guy and we don't have to talk every minute since we'll be dancing anyway.  But I do not want to walk into this huge event & be hunting for him so he better respond.

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Avatar for floridagirl52
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sun, 03-24-2013 - 7:06pm

Yee-ha! And just think: you didn't meet him through online dating! Glad it went well.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 03-25-2013 - 11:34am

As you know, even though a lot of my friends did meet their BFs on OLD, it never worked well for me.  I think it's good, if you enjoy doing something, to meet someone who already likes to do that same thing.  Dancing is my interest, but it could be anything.  I see some of my friends who meet guys who don't like to dance and then they have to convince the guy but since I met him at a dance, I don't have that problem--plus I found out he likes football, so he's my ideal man. :)

Avatar for Kendahke1
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Registered: 08-09-2012
Mon, 03-25-2013 - 1:32pm

Excellent.. I'm happy things went well that evening for you!  It gives me hope in my old age, LOL.

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Registered: 05-10-2005
Mon, 03-25-2013 - 6:51pm

It is so good to start out with a common interest.  Plus, he made a plan and followed through!  Glad you had a good time.  Keep us posted on your next outing!

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