Dating and the busy gal

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Dating and the busy gal
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Thu, 03-02-2006 - 2:50pm

I posted this on the online dating board but thought I'd put it up here, too.

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 1:40pm
LOL
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Fri, 03-03-2006 - 3:07pm

I have found it hard to coordinate schedules with women I meet online. I have my priorities (my visitation with my children, my work). However I do want to create a long term, committed relationship with someone so that is next in line for making time for someone.

I gauge how much a woman would want to create a relationship by how she prioritizes her time in meeting/dating. Regardless this takes communication between both parties to figure that out.

Mark

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 4:33pm

Hehe, Jules. Sometimes you and I are SO on the same wavelength! I, too, cannot stand sleeping in too late, never could. I feel like I'm wasting a day. I've always been like that, even as a teenager I couldn't sleep past 9:00.

Also, I am TOTALLY for staying up late and partying with friends. An entire bottle of Vodka is a tall order for two women- go girl! :-)

And finally, "Time with good friends and getting some action are about the only 2 things that will keep me up these days." It's like you took the words right out of my mouth.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 4:41pm
Heeheeeheee - at least we have our priorities straight and know what we are willing to lose sleep for. :)
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 7:10pm

I haven't had time to read the whole thread, so sorry if I repeat what others have said.

1) I think you have every right to do something you love and you shouldn't give that up.

2) As long as you are leaving some evenings free and making room in your life for the potential of love and romance (when that's something you want), then I don't see anything wrong with turning down dates on dance nights. If you were dancing more than three nights a week, I might say to cut back a little to leave room for dating.

3) When you start to date one guy more seriously, maybe that's when you agree to dance only two nights, for example -- compromise is more appropriate when you've both shown a commitment to each other.

4) My exception to the above would be if dancing those nights leaves you too exhausted and drained to want to date. If dating and finding a special partner is important to you, you do need to make it a priority to some extent. That will free you up to meet people, go out with people, and have the energy to devote to a potential relationship.

5) When you do meet Mr. Wonderful, you should under no circumstances give up all dancing. You love it, it's part of you, and the person who loves you will love that part of your life (or at least respect and appreciate it).

Happy dancing, and happy dating. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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