Dating breaks

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Dating breaks
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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 4:30pm

I have been on a self-imposed dating break this month because I was so stressed at work and with life in general, I just couldn't deal with the added stress of dating new people and the job-interview-like process that goes with it. My break will offically be over in March.

Here's the odd part -- while on this break, I've been feeling bummed that I don't have anyone actively pursuing me right now and asking me out. I'm feeling like I might have shut down all my options, and now maybe I won't have any options when I want them. Does that make sense? I don't know how to express that clearly. It's like I'm giving off a "don't ask me out" vibe.

My 31st birthday is in a few weeks, and I'm really feeling like time is winding down for me. Like there's some voice telling me that I won't ever get a date again now that I am officially into my 30s.

So, is my dating break the death of my dating life? Did the break kill any momentum I might have built up? What do I do to kick start my love life when my break is over?

Random musings. (The sex thread also made me think my sex life might be over, too). ;)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 12-05-2005
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 1:45pm

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I second that! I've been on one date in eight months (date from hell at that too). I love my best friend to death but she's very self concious and insecure. Hard to get her to go out anyway. I do go to yoga and I'm going to take some courses in the summer...but I just never seem to meet anyone either...and I'm not scary I promise!

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 11:27am

I have been the one to chase after the guy many times.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 1:25pm
I can't say I've done the chasing *many* times, but this is usually the result for me as well.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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