The Dating Gods Lend Hal A Helping Hand
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The Dating Gods Lend Hal A Helping Hand
| Fri, 04-21-2006 - 11:04am |
So, who do I bump into in the supermarket again? Yes, you guessed it:-
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsinglelovi&msg=6445.1&ctx=128
We started chatting about different things and she finally asks me what my plans are. I told her I have a couple of weeks off work and didn’t have any plans. She then says, “Well send me a text or call if you want to do something”! She is off tomorrow (Saturday) and I said that I would definitely be in touch. Not only that, during the conversation we discovered her birthday is 1 day after mine and she suggested we should celebrate! It looks like this excessively long, arduous and infuriating story is finally coming to a conclusion.

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>or because you didn't really get together with her after all?
I should have taken photos to prove it.
Details:- We had a good day together. Nice lunch, good conversation and a walk along the beach, but nothing romantic happened. Later that evening (a few hours later at around 10pm) she sent a text thanking me for an "enjoyable" day (I thought that was a good sign) and I replied in kind. The next day I saw her at the gym and we talked a little. Later that evening (Sunday) I sent her a text suggesting we go out if she feels up to it and I got no reply, Nothing, Zippo, Zilch, Zero, Nought, etc
I'm not really confused. I just don't believe she is interested. I’ve never had to chase a woman after a first “date”. Actually, it would be more correct to say that from experience, if I need to chase it means they aren’t interested.
>>Actually, it would be more correct to say that from experience, if I need to chase it means they aren’t interested.<<
I think that's only true after 3 or 4 dates. Continue chasing until you get to at least date three. She might also be wondering about your interest level, so it's best not to leave much to chance and just ask her out again.
CONGRATS on bringing this situation this far. :) I'm glad you had a nice day with her, and enjoy the next steps. Definitely don't write her off yet -- you've gotten this far. That would be a shame.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
>>Hey guys, *support* <<
Sometimes support comes in the form of a swift kick in the pants. All of my comments were good natured and I am genuinely rooting for Hal. I think we all just wanted to see him follow through on this, and he did. So, that's great! :)
AJ, enjoying life with C.
>She might also be wondering about your interest level
>so it's best not to leave much to chance and just ask
>her out again.
Let me see if I understand this correctly. I asked her out again but she COMPLETELY IGNORED me. But you think she may be confused about my interest level so I should try asking her out again? I don't think so. If she is confused then she needs to do something about it. I've done my bit.
Sorry to butt in on this as a lurker, but I am wondering if maybe she had a problem with your asking her out via text msging. Maybe you should formally ask her out by calling her on the phone and actually speaking to her...?
Just a suggestion.
We arranged our first "date" completely by text in the space of 10 minutes and met 1hour later. Are you suggesting that this method is so unacceptable for a second date that it's worthy of contempt? Seriously?
I doubt it.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
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