"Dating Newness" - Love it or Hate it?
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| Sun, 01-22-2006 - 6:37pm |
I have always prefered the comfort and familiarity of a long term relationship, though there is something very exciting and thrilling about casual dating and the "beginning of something." You get excited when the guy calls and it's fun to pick out your cute/sexy date outfit and wonder where he'll take you and what you'll talk about. Plus every girl loves that post-date gossip with her single friends. On the flip side, waiting for your phone to ring, mixed messages and the butterflies in your stomach can be very grueling - not to mention constant small talk, the energy it requires to be charming and that natural hesitation to truely be yourself at first!!
I'm about to return the call of a guy whom I had a very nice first date with last week and of course the butterflies are in full effect. (It seems I get more nervous for those first few phone calls than I do for the actual dates!) Just thought I'd ask what people's take is on dating - whether it's stressful or exciting or a little of both.

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I agree! I feel like a "date" with a guy friend is almost a waste of an evening, sad to say. If it's not a real date, I don't want it to *seem* like a date.
I am up for party invitations and that kind of thing that might lead to a wider social circle, but I definitely am over the friend date thing.
(This doesn't totally apply to guy friends who have been around forever, but those new guys you meet who seem to want to be just friends. I had that happen with a speed dating guy recently... I could never tell if he wanted more, he never tried to kiss me or anything, and I eventually got bored and the whole connection fizzled).
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I never liked dating. Too much work, too stressful, too many unmet expectations. I got lucky a few times with the men I've been attached.
Friends don't date. They sit, have coffee and wish they were on a date with somebody else. I never dated to have a friend. I went out with friends to make friends.
Rubyshoes
I wish I could enjoy it more- maybe enjoy the idea that if nothing is exclusive than i can see other people and just date and such. But I miss the comforts of committed relationships and feeling that level of comfort.
I have a 4th date with a guy on Friday. We get along and I really like him, but still have this fear that he won't call and things will fall a part. I wish I could feel more confident or else just stop caring and enjoy this casual thing.
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