Dating an older man?

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Registered: 09-17-2003
Dating an older man?
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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 4:55pm
I've gotten to know a man who works for my company pretty well over the past eight months. We work in separate departments and buildings and only met through chance (we don't have contact through work, and our company is very accepting of office dating--people who meet here often marry!). We seem very compatible in many aspects, and I've become very attracted to him. We've emailed all day, every day, for six months, and have started having lunch occasionally. He volunteers on weekends at a local animal shelter, and I frequently visit him there. We get along so well, I'd like to see if the attraction is mutual, but the age difference worries me a a little. I'm 32 and he's 54! My best friend says I'm crazy to like him, but a coworker who knows both of us says to take the plunge, that age shouldn't matter. Has anyone dated someone that much older? I'd love some advice! Thanks in advance!

Angie

 

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Registered: 06-24-2005
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 7:00pm

I don't think the age difference is that big of a deal because you're both older and more mature. 20 years is a bigger gap between 18 and 38, than it is between 32 and 52! I say go for it...

Of course you know that if you want to get serious with each other you need to talk about the big issue....kids. If you both don't want kids, or more kids, then really no problem! If you want kids though and he's past that point in his life, then that's a problem.

That's my two cents!
Good luck!

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Registered: 09-17-2003
Sat, 10-28-2006 - 1:28pm
Good point! We each have two children. His are grown already, while mine are both under 10, and I'm not planning on having more. 8) Thanks for your input!

Angie