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Dating Question
| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 5:12pm |
I was reading Shy's thread about dating and started to wonder. Do you think guys, as a rule, only pursue girls who are actively dating? I forget where I heard this, but I heard once that men go after women who are being pursued by one or more men. I think that theory is supposed to link back to instinct in the wild or something.
I haven't dated in a few years. I have a group of single male friends and they are always going after another female friend who happens to date quite frequently. It doesn't bother me. I'm not interested in any of them, but they don't know that . . . I'm a big flirt, too. Especially, after a couple glasses of wine. She and I are almost the same build if that is of any importance. I'd say we're both equally attractive as well. I think she gives off a desperate vibe but I don't know if guys can pick up on that sort of thing.
Anyway, do any of you think that it's a valid theory? Girl + Suitors = Desirable?
I haven't dated in a few years. I have a group of single male friends and they are always going after another female friend who happens to date quite frequently. It doesn't bother me. I'm not interested in any of them, but they don't know that . . . I'm a big flirt, too. Especially, after a couple glasses of wine. She and I are almost the same build if that is of any importance. I'd say we're both equally attractive as well. I think she gives off a desperate vibe but I don't know if guys can pick up on that sort of thing.
Anyway, do any of you think that it's a valid theory? Girl + Suitors = Desirable?

>Girl + Suitors = Desirable?<
That would definitely explain those dating feasts and famines. You know - you're single for months and months. You finally get a date that seems to be going well and suddenly there are men coming out of the wood work.
I still think it's an unconscious vibe that we give off. And it could also be a hormone we excrete - that's feasible I suppose.
We're (humans, I mean) definitely all still very primitive when you get right down to it.
Sort of the same theory as women chasing men with wedding rings. When you know someone else wants something (or has something you don't), the value of that something goes up?
Interesting idea. Maybe that's why people always say it's either feast or famine - no dates or too many dates?
AJ, enjoying life with C.
>>That would definitely explain those dating feasts and famines.<<
LOL - we cross-posted the same thing at the same time. Great minds...
AJ, enjoying life with C.
>LOL - we cross-posted the same thing at the same time. Great minds...<
Hey! No fair stealing my ideas! ;)
Maybe we should just all make up imaginary boyfriends, that way we can give off that vibe all the time.
Mine's name is.....hmmm...I need to think of a good imaginary boyfriend name.
That's too funny!
I think mine would be a construction worker.
Funny!
Me, I'd probably pick a history professor as my imaginary boyfriend. I'm a librarian and history buff so it just seems to be a good match. (And I've actually had some good dates with gents in academe!)