Dating Rant

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Registered: 07-18-2006
Dating Rant
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Thu, 02-08-2007 - 7:54pm
I can't stand dating! I'm a relationship kinda gal. I was with by ex for 10 years (19-29) and then BAM, I had to break up with him (long story). So then I'm single, and I feel just like a teenager with all of the questions: When will he call?? Should I call?? When can I sleep with him 'cause dammit I'm horny! etc. Then ya meet someone you like but ya gotta go s-l-o-w because you're just Dating. You aint his woman! Matter of fact, he may be dating other people cause you are NOT his woman! And he can date others, as can I. Guess Why??? Because it's JUST DATING. Whew.....
I just miss coming home to someone and talking about the day at work, etc and just chillin. That's all I want (well ya know what I mean)
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Registered: 02-07-2007
In reply to: charna75
Fri, 02-09-2007 - 2:11am
i hear ya, dating sucks, i feel the same way, you are not alone
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Registered: 06-24-2005
In reply to: charna75
Fri, 02-09-2007 - 10:56am

I feel your pain, I hate dating as well. I feel 'dating stupid' half the time because there's 'rules' now? When did that happen?

I actually just bought a great book..."Mars & Venus on a Date". AWESOME BOOK. I've always been a fan of the series but it really breaks down how men & women date differently and the stages of dating. I've found it very helpful and comforting. It's very straightforward and simple. Check online, like ebay or amazon.com used books - no need to pay full price!

Good luck and hang in there!

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Registered: 07-18-2006
In reply to: charna75
Fri, 02-09-2007 - 12:18pm
I'll check that out. Been looking for a good book
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Registered: 10-09-2006
In reply to: charna75
Fri, 02-09-2007 - 12:40pm
Hey! Actually, I like dating, and consider it fun. Sure, there's LOTS of duds out there, and it can be frustrating. But I try to approach it without any pressure on myself (or on him), and I tell myself that no matter what happens I'm just going to enjoy myself. And you know what? With this attitude (mind you, it took me a long time to acquire that attitude), I'm totally enjoying dating. I appreciate my life as a single person -- I can do whatever I want, whenever I want now. Yes, I miss being in a committed relationship, too, but at the same time I'm enjoying my life, and what IS RIGHT NOW. And that is, being SINGLE! Eventually the right guy will come along, but I don't need anyone "to complete me".... You don't either!!!!!!!!! ENJOY! You're only given one life and it passes by much too fast. Enjoy each and every day (and date)!!!!! :o)
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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: charna75
Fri, 02-09-2007 - 2:10pm
Oh, I agree. I much prefer a LTR to "dating." Right now, I prefer singleness to dating, but I'm sure I'll get back out there if someone worth the time comes along. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.